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Re: Help Finding Clothing
« Reply #30 on: August 16, 2019, 09:56:34 PM »
I am by no means looking to flaunt what I have been given, mainly due to a lot of small minds that can't understand how the body works. I am blessed with a few friends that are chosen family that have known for some time, and my doctor that didn't make a big deal over it at our last appointment. I just like to be open with my family of birth and those that have chosen me. There are still boundaries, but my opinion is that we are supposed to support the ones we care about. And I understand the learning curve and adapting to things outside their usual understanding takes time. The trolls can piss off.

Re: Help Finding Clothing
« Reply #31 on: August 29, 2019, 02:49:12 AM »
Check out Shefit bras.  They make them for all sizes and look like a vest more than anything.  Also hassle free returns.

Re: Help Finding Clothing
« Reply #32 on: October 14, 2019, 10:16:28 PM »
Amazon Prime with returns has been my friend. 

I only braved the brick and mortar stores once and had an unpleasant experience with a saleswoman. So I am an online shopper now. 

I am only a 42 B but I have needed bras for many years because of how sensitive my chest and nipples are wearing normal shirts that rubbed every tine I took a step at work. And walking for exercise was miserable. And I could not jog without holding my breasts. 

I tried to diminish my issue and pretend it exist. I tried binders and they just hurt. I considered surgery but after quotes between $5000-$15000 and enough botched surgery jobs I was out. Plus I have medical reasons why surgery is not a good option right now. I used to get mad that surgery was considered elective or cosmetic. But now I agree with this. For me the surgery is about social norms and vanity not about my health or safety. I know some may disagree and that's ok. 

But it wasn't until I called them breasts and started to accept my breasts as just a part of me rather than some kind of malignancy that I found some peace. I realized that I was simply trying to please other people rather than deal with my true feelings. 

Now a couple years later I actually find myself being proud of them. I have nice breasts. If my breast volume was on a 36 or 38 band they'd probably be some DDs. If anything, I'd like my Bs to be even bigger. I know you're not supposed to have those feelings as a straight XY but well there it is. 

I find that I like to wear clothing in layers and no longer buy super baggy clothes. I even some women's tank tops or camisoles with built in support. I used to wear thick or baggy clothes to hide evidence of my feminine chest. Now I I just wear what looks good on me. 

I wish I had discovered this site years ago but I hope to maybe now be a support to others who might be walking through some of this and just coming to terms with it. 

One word of unsolicited advice is to do what you want and don't let others try to convince you or shame you. Personally I went from trying to please others for having breasts to trying to please others and considering surgery to please some meatheads at the local gym. In other words I just exchanged one group for another to please. You don't have to change because society is uncomfortable with female breasts on the wrong frame. You also don't have to change to please family. And you certainly don't have to change for the toxic male driven ego types and bodybuilders. They try to change you because they don't feel in control of themselves and I have found that they often provide a bunch of useless "bro science".


Re: Help Finding Clothing
« Reply #33 on: October 16, 2019, 01:16:28 PM »
I am a big advocate of simply going to your local stores with self checkout such as walmart. I wish kohls did but oh well. And grabbing some bras that will do the trick if fit and grab some male jeans or shirts and cover the bras with them. Having a bundle of clothes makes time trying bras on understandable vs wondering whats taking so long in taking only a shirt or two in. 
Also grab shirts that you would wear or already have style wise to be sure what you try on would work for when you go home and out in usual clothes. 

Re: Help Finding Clothing
« Reply #34 on: October 16, 2019, 06:48:03 PM »
I am sorry you had a bad experience your first time shopping in person. I would suggest trying stores like Soma and Ln., Bryant. If you feel nervous, you can call ahead of time. I am sure they will be quite welcoming 


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