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Title: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 26, 2019, 10:56:52 AM
It seems that most guys on here have come to tolerate their breasts but would rather not have them. I was surprised that I found that I love having them. Breasts can be very beautiful and I see mine as such. Everyone is different and that includes those of us who see our breast development as a positive. It's not at all about being sexual, just as an infant's relationship with its mother's breasts is not sexual. The infant only appreciates the milk it suckles and I suspect that most of us who were nursed still carry an appreciation for our mother's breasts and by extension all breasts.

I do respect fully those who wear bras for comfort and those who chose to minimize the appearance of their breasts. But equal respect goes to those men who are comfortable allowing them to be seen by others. Remaining respectful of conventions on public nudity, this is exactly how women's clothes have evolved. It has long been acceptable for women to wear revealing clothing and so should it be fore men. The big problem is that society (especially ours) has oversexualized breasts.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 26, 2019, 11:36:05 AM
While having breasts is something I would have never wanted, now that I have them, I have come to like them. It took years to accept them,  but now I have had them for so long I don't remember a time when I didn't have them and unless there is a medical reason to have them removed, I am just as happy to keep them. I have learned to celebrate them and it gives me an insight into a world men know little to anything about. Around people who know about them I don't try and hide them. It's actually a very liberating experience that I have come to enjoy. So while I might complain about them, I am like most women when it comes to their breasts. They can be a pain at times but I won't trade them for all the world. 
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 26, 2019, 01:49:59 PM
While having breasts is something I would have never wanted, now that I have them, I have come to like them. It took years to accept them,  but now I have had them for so long I don't remember a time when I didn't have them and unless there is a medical reason to have them removed, I am just as happy to keep them. I have learned to celebrate them and it gives me an insight into a world men know little to anything about. Around people who know about them I don't try and hide them. It's actually a very liberating experience that I have come to enjoy. So while I might complain about them, I am like most women when it comes to their breasts. They can be a pain at times but I won't trade them for all the world.
It didn't take much time for me to like mine. I don't feel like a woman trapped in a man's body but I've wondered what it would be like to be a woman. I'll never know but having breasts has definitely given me an insight into this aspect of femininity. I see myself as a feature-enhanced male.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: aboywithgirls on June 26, 2019, 02:26:59 PM
Very well said!

I a good example of this is swimwear. I haven't been topless in public since I was 12. For many years, this meant swimming in a t shirt  and usually a compression style sports bra. Like everyone else here, I've have become more comfortable with my boobs and no longer wear a tshirt swimming.  My wife suggested a tankini 
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 26, 2019, 02:41:48 PM
Very well said!

I a good example of this is swimwear. I haven't been topless in public since I was 12. For many years, this meant swimming in a t shirt  and usually a compression style sports bra. Like everyone else here, I've have become more comfortable with my boobs and no longer wear a tshirt swimming.  My wife suggested a tankini
Thank you. I'm new to this but my breasts are already large enough to need some kind of top for swimming.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 26, 2019, 05:10:50 PM

I have never wanted nor have I ever felt like a woman trapped in a man's body. I am wired male. I always have been. I did go through a period of time when I questioned whether I was transgender (because if I have breasts I must be a woman, right?) but I never felt anything other than a guy. That is what I am. A guy with some extra parts. I do admit though with the chemistry of my hormones as screwed up as they are to cause my breasts in the first place, I do have some female tendencies and emotions and sympathies. I understand a womans position in a discussion, even if I don't agree with it when my male friends have no comprehension of it at all. The amount of estrogen in my body has not only affected me physically but also I believe has at least affected my emotions somewhat (don't take me to a sad film) as well as the understanding of why a woman would think a certain way about something. It is certainly a unique window into the female world. I think that maybe why my female friends are pretty close friends. I have come to enjoy walking that line between the sexes. I think others here feel similarly. Our chemistry dictates it.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Goodnplenty on June 27, 2019, 10:51:35 PM
Feature enhanced male is a great way to put it.  I'm male and enjoy being male.  As soon as my breasts started to grow and develop new sensations I almost immediately liked it.  I had always assumed that women's breasts were just like any other body part, no more or less sensitive.  Now that I have my own breasts I  know that to be wrong.  Another insight that I've gained is on the subject of breast implants.  My previous view was that it was just women being frivolous and vain but now I can see how having a nicer shape, firmer and yes bigger breasts can be an ego boost.  I always feel better when I'm supported with a nice rounded shape.  If you could wake up every morning without having put on a bra to get that, I  understand the appeal of augmentation now.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: SideSet on June 28, 2019, 07:24:05 AM
Thank you so much for starting this thread and thanks to all who have contributed. We have kindred spirits and busts
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 28, 2019, 08:10:06 AM
I understand the desire of augmentation as well. While it is something that I have no desire to have, I can completely understand why a woman would want it, for the look and confidence it gives. There are times I think it would be nice to be a little larger or more round or more full or . . . but . . . I do admit that I have become a fan of the rounded, lifted look that a good underwire bra gives me. While I am very male in appearance (damn male pattern baldness!), I do think that when my breasts are lifted and shaped by a bra, my chest just looks better. While it may make me have a more feminine looking chest, the droopy, floppy look of being braless takes away from a more polished look and makes my chest look even more feminine than wearing a bra does. Just check out early pictures of Australian politician Bill Shorten. Even in a suit, you could tell he was braless and didn't look as good as later pictures when it appears he is wearing a bra. The braless look to me screams, look at my chest because of all the movement that happens in just regular walking. Studies have shown that when you walk, breasts move in a figure 8 pattern. If you look closely at someone who has breasts and is braless, you can see the tissue moving in an eight pattern. The eye is drawn to it. (natural selection?) The support and containment of a bra stops that. You may see tissue moving within the cups, that movement is small and usually isn't noticeable under clothing even though you may feel the movement.

I know for me, I was completely surprised how much more confident I was of my appearance when I started wearing a bra. I had thought it would be the other way around, that I would have to hide my chest even more so as not to appear more feminine. True, I have to be a little more careful in what and how I dress so not to come off looking like a guy in drag, or showing an outline of my bra under tops, I have gotten pretty modest about that and I understand now why a lot of women are too, but the overall look is not bad. It is something that women do all the time to give the best appearance possible. I have always slumped to try and hide my chest, but after I started wearing a bra, I found that to support my chest properly I needed to have the band very snug around my rib cage and it was more comfortable when I stood straight with that support, even though it meant that the girls were more visible and shapely because of what the bra does to the appearance of the breasts. I think that is when I started to change my attitude about my chest. It isn't a desire to show them off, just a desire to live my life without worrying about what others think about my appearance when I wear clothes that fit my proper size. The girls have always been out there, now they just look better being lifted and rounded.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: SideSet on June 28, 2019, 08:31:58 AM
Yes, For me, wearing a bra is as much about appearance as it is comfort. In my opinion, I look and feel best in a bra.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: aboywithgirls on June 28, 2019, 12:04:26 PM
Yes! I wear a bra for comfort and appearance. That's what a bra is for, isn't it?  I wear a 38G. I can't let my girls run wild! They look like two puppies playing in my top if I'm braless!  I bra provides comfort and support and shape! I also wear underwire bras exclusively to gain a rounded, less pointy shape.My boobs are very obvious regardless of wearing a bra or not. I might as well look and feel better because I am not having surgery. 
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 28, 2019, 12:28:02 PM
My breast development has been pretty typical in following a rather steep fall in testosterone. It happens as we age and it can be gradual or fast. I noticed how differently my mind worked and was surprisingly happy about it. Testosterone maintains masculine features and without it we revert to a more feminine form. It's as natural as can be and for some of us it isn't the horror portrayed so widely by suppliers of testosterone supplements and the medical community.

For me loss of my male sex drive was an unanticipated positive. I'd been sexual all my life and was getting tired of it. Loss of testosterone made me realize that I'd been battling my sex drive all my adult life. It stressed me out. I've often thought about how great it would be to have any thought of sex contaminate my relationships with friends and professional colleagues and now that's my reality. My wife lost most of her sex drive after she went through menopause so now we're perfectly matched and both see sex as kind of silly and unnecessary.

I don't think I could have any or all these mental benefits if I did testosterone replacement, so that's out of the question. It was inevitable that my body would become feminized and I'm so happy that I love every aspect of it, including developing breasts and loss of body hair. I'm a bit concerned with a decline in cognition and osteoporosis but both could be prevented with HRT using female hormones.

Having even fairly small breasts at present is still a wonder. I don't yet need to wear a bra, but I don't think they've stopped growing so who knows how large they'll be. I'll be OK if they stay the same size and don't think I'll mind if they got much larger. Having real female breasts of any size is wonderful!
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Goodnplenty on June 28, 2019, 07:40:17 PM
I used to think when I looked in the mirror at my breasts shaped and supported by a good bra under my shirt that I  was being a little delusional to think that I look pretty good and had a great pair of boobs.  I can see that I'm not the only one to have that thought.  On the subject of confidence I was completely surprised by the amount of confidence that wearing a good bra gives you.  I've often thought of it as a day long silky hug around my chest.  Why a bra would do this, I don't know.   I wonder though if it's something similar to hugging machine in the movie Temple Grandin or the tight thunder shirts that people put on dogs to calm them down. 

Another random observation,  I find myself instinctively gaurding and protecting my chest now when anything looks like it is going to get anywhere near my breasts. 
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 29, 2019, 09:23:35 AM
I used to think when I looked in the mirror at my breasts shaped and supported by a good bra under my shirt that I  was being a little delusional to think that I look pretty good and had a great pair of boobs.  I can see that I'm not the only one to have that thought.  On the subject of confidence I was completely surprised by the amount of confidence that wearing a good bra gives you.  I've often thought of it as a day long silky hug around my chest.  Why a bra would do this, I don't know.  I wonder though if it's something similar to hugging machine in the movie Temple Grandin or the tight thunder shirts that people put on dogs to calm them down.

Another random observation,  I find myself instinctively gaurding and protecting my chest now when anything looks like it is going to get anywhere near my breasts.
I can easily see why wearing a bra would be comfortable. My breasts are just beginning to bounce a bit but going braless still works. It's hard to believe I'm in the B/C cup range, but my bust size is 2 1/2 - 3" larger than my chest. I've purchased a couple of bras in that size and they do fit reasonably well. My breasts are just widely spaced.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 29, 2019, 09:40:25 AM
I used to think when I looked in the mirror at my breasts shaped and supported by a good bra under my shirt that I  was being a little delusional to think that I look pretty good and had a great pair of boobs.  I can see that I'm not the only one to have that thought.  On the subject of confidence I was completely surprised by the amount of confidence that wearing a good bra gives you.  I've often thought of it as a day long silky hug around my chest.  Why a bra would do this, I don't know.  I wonder though if it's something similar to hugging machine in the movie Temple Grandin or the tight thunder shirts that people put on dogs to calm them down.

Another random observation,  I find myself instinctively gaurding and protecting my chest now when anything looks like it is going to get anywhere near my breasts.

You are not alone in that thought of appearance. I see the same thing. I will look in the mirror and go, is THAT really me? I am no looker, that is for sure, but looking at my chest in a mirror, it looks pretty good to me. I would have never thought such a bodily feature might turn out to be my BEST feature! But I am to the point that if it is on my body, I might as well try and make it look the best it can. And if that means a bra, then so be it.

As for you random observation, I too have noticed that I instinctively guard my chest. Just the other day, I had to slip past a co worker in a crowded space and she moved backwards toward me, not knowing I was there and I went into this protective mode to keep her shoulder/arm from hitting my breast. A very female reaction. It even surprised me. Certainly with the support, shaping and lift an underwire bra gives the breast, it does put the girls out there in front to be a target. I have noticed that I have unconsciously started to do things like that to protect them as a woman would. I guess that naturally comes when you accept what you have. I have always hated for things to bump into my bust, but now, I really have this bubble of space around them that I don't want anyone or thing to come near them and it has nothing to do with being "found out". A look is all it takes for that.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 29, 2019, 11:15:08 AM
I've also already developed a protection response to hitting them against anything. It does seem only related to having sensitive nipples and not at all about hiding them.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: SideSet on June 29, 2019, 11:29:07 AM
My boobs are sensitive to being banged into. 

I sometimes also find myself being instinctively modest. Recently, I was bra shopping. The sales associate was helping me try on different bras in the dressing room.  She would bring me bras to try on, and then once I had a bra on, stepping into the dressing room, so she could give me her opinion and make any adjustments.  One time when she inadvertently stepped in while I was in between bras, and therefore bare breasted, my two hands went up instinctively to cover my two bare breasts,   But I immediately regained my composure, and realized no big deal, and one hand reached out for the new bras she brought me to try and I let the other hand wrap to my side.  It actually turned out to be quite constructive, because she said  my breasts were a bit bottom heavy, so a balconet might work well for me.   She then brought me a balconet bra, which we both agreed was the best of them all and I ended up purchasing  
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 29, 2019, 01:21:03 PM
I had that happen one time with my bra fitter walking in on me unexpectedly. She thought I was covered but was braless. I too instinctively went to put up my arms and then in mid stride stopped and said something along the lines of "Nothing you have never seen before." She laughed and apologized and like you, she got a better idea of my shape and the next bra she brought in fit perfectly because she could see for herself what I needed. She is the only non family, non medical personnel to see me bare chested in decades. She is the only person other than my wife or medical personnel I allow to touch my breasts. I also allow her to touch my bras at anytime she sees fit to adjust them. The trust and respect I have in her is great and she knows it. I am very lucky to have her as my fitter.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: felix on June 29, 2019, 11:37:48 PM
Once again, you guys have shown me that I am not alone.  I am 71, happily married (got the right one this time), and not attracted to men, but have always secretly felt that it isn't fair that only women get to have breasts.  My wife had made some comments that I seemed to be growing boobs but I didn't pay much attention until she remarked that I was starting to look like a B cup and I realized that I had grown a pretty nice rack.  I started borrowing my wife's bras for mountain biking and finally got my own sport bra.  The more I wore it, the more I realized that I was just plain more comfortable with it than without it.  After some trial and error, I found a style and size that worked for me and now wear a bra every day.  Once you get past the first few days and realize that nobody is looking at you, it is not a big deal.  As long as I pay attention to how I dress, I am completely comfortable with it and fairly confident that nobody can tell I am wearing it unless they are looking for it.  They seem to have stabilized at their current size and I still don't know what caused them, but I have realized that it is obvious that I have boobs and have caught several women staring at my chest when they think I am not looking.  Women notice other people's breasts and now that I have a set, I have started paying more attention to others' chests, both men and women.  I was in a restaurant a while back and noticed that I had larger breasts than 2 of the 3 waitresses.  As some of the guys on here have observed, there are a lot of men out there with man boobs these days.  Maybe it is something in the water and maybe we are just noticing them more now that we have joined the girls in that respect. 

I am not at all self conscious about them and now rather enjoy them.  My wife has had breast reduction surgery and I am quite sure I don't want to go there and kind of wish that she hadn't.  I am completely OK with wearing bras and enjoy the feeling of having my breasts supported.  I admit that I sometimes feel a bit jealous when I see an attractive well endowed woman in a white T shirt with her bra showing through the shirt and wish I could just put on my favorite bra and not worry about whether others see the hooks in the back.  Women don't care but we do. My only complaint is that one is a bit smaller than the other one.  Instead of having one made smaller, I would rather have the smaller one made bigger and have even looked into having some of my belly fat relocated to even them up.  My wife is completely OK with me wearing a bra but I think she would draw the line at breast augmentation, so for now they are what they are and I enjoy having them, though I wish they would grow into a full B cup so I would have an easier time finding bras. 

I sometimes catch myself slipping my keys or my cell phone into my bra and I understand where the women who complain about their DDs are coming from.  As Johndoe mentioned, it gives us a window into the female world.  My wife recently had a lump removed (it went fine), recently lost some weight, and was complaining about her bras.  I offered to loan her a couple of mine and we both broke out laughing at how absurd the situation was but she borrowed my Coobie.  A side effect is that my nipples have turned into a major erogenous zone and I am high beaming through the bras most of the time. I do realize that us guys with the almost Bs are amateurs compared to some of you but I love my breasts and wouldn't give them up even if I could.



Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: ilikemytits on June 30, 2019, 06:33:35 AM
Once again, you guys have shown me that I am not alone.  I am 71, happily married (got the right one this time), and not attracted to men, but have always secretly felt that it isn't fair that only women get to have breasts.  My wife had made some comments that I seemed to be growing boobs but I didn't pay much attention until she remarked that I was starting to look like a B cup and I realized that I had grown a pretty nice rack.  I started borrowing my wife's bras for mountain biking and finally got my own sport bra.  The more I wore it, the more I realized that I was just plain more comfortable with it than without it.  After some trial and error, I found a style and size that worked for me and now wear a bra every day.  Once you get past the first few days and realize that nobody is looking at you, it is not a big deal.  As long as I pay attention to how I dress, I am completely comfortable with it and fairly confident that nobody can tell I am wearing it unless they are looking for it.  They seem to have stabilized at their current size and I still don't know what caused them, but I have realized that it is obvious that I have boobs and have caught several women staring at my chest when they think I am not looking.  Women notice other people's breasts and now that I have a set, I have started paying more attention to others' chests, both men and women.  I was in a restaurant a while back and noticed that I had larger breasts than 2 of the 3 waitresses.  As some of the guys on here have observed, there are a lot of men out there with man boobs these days.  Maybe it is something in the water and maybe we are just noticing them more now that we have joined the girls in that respect. 

I am not at all self conscious about them and now rather enjoy them.  My wife has had breast reduction surgery and I am quite sure I don't want to go there and kind of wish that she hadn't.  I am completely OK with wearing bras and enjoy the feeling of having my breasts supported.  I admit that I sometimes feel a bit jealous when I see an attractive well endowed woman in a white T shirt with her bra showing through the shirt and wish I could just put on my favorite bra and not worry about whether others see the hooks in the back.  Women don't care but we do. My only complaint is that one is a bit smaller than the other one.  Instead of having one made smaller, I would rather have the smaller one made bigger and have even looked into having some of my belly fat relocated to even them up.  My wife is completely OK with me wearing a bra but I think she would draw the line at breast augmentation, so for now they are what they are and I enjoy having them, though I wish they would grow into a full B cup so I would have an easier time finding bras. 

I sometimes catch myself slipping my keys or my cell phone into my bra and I understand where the women who complain about their DDs are coming from.  As Johndoe mentioned, it gives us a window into the female world.  My wife recently had a lump removed (it went fine), recently lost some weight, and was complaining about her bras.  I offered to loan her a couple of mine and we both broke out laughing at how absurd the situation was but she borrowed my Coobie.  A side effect is that my nipples have turned into a major erogenous zone and I am high beaming through the bras most of the time. I do realize that us guys with the almost Bs are amateurs compared to some of you but I love my breasts and wouldn't give them up even if I could.
It really is great to find that other men love having breasts. My wife is also supportive but hasn't gotten completely used to my having boobs.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on June 30, 2019, 07:12:15 AM
 I do realize that us guys with the almost Bs are amateurs compared to some of you but I love my breasts and wouldn't give them up even if I could.
I think we all are amateurs, no matter our size. To my knowledge, only ABWG has been dealing with his breasts in a proactive manner since his teen years, similarly like women do. In my mind, he is the pro. Heck, I did everything to hide and deny mine with varying results from sometimes successful to down right failure while never really dealing with them up to just a few years ago. I am STILL learning how to deal with mine as many here. I can say that since I started dealing with them, I get noticed less and my mental health is better because I am not worried about them all the time like I had been before. He has been like that since his teen years.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: aboywithgirls on June 30, 2019, 10:16:04 AM
Thank you for the vote of confidence but, I'm not a professional. I've just been dealing with my boobs like anyone else. I have just been dealing with having breasts in a more conventional manner. I have felt with my boobs in much the same way that most women do. I have just always tried to be comfortable and look my best. Wearing a bra is just something that I feel that you should do when you have boobs that need support. 

For myself, it's a no brainier on whether to wear a bra or not. I have been doing it for most of my life.. I have found that wearing a bra is the easiest way for me to manage having breasts so I can do what I need to do to get through the day to day grind. 

It's so much better now.for men who need to wear a bra to do so. The stores that sell bras are ready and most are more than willing to help us get into a bra that fits and works for us. All we have to do is ask. It can.be awkward to ask help with selecting a bra but it doesn't have to be. The ladies there are happy to help. They know how wearing a bra benefits them so why shouldn't a man have the same benefits from a bra based on genetals.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Steven618 on July 05, 2019, 10:13:02 AM
jealous of ya'lls confidence and courage. i just went through another growth spurt, and the breast area is so full in comparison to before. i've lost fat which is nice but the tissue growth feels so much more there then before when it had more fat to accompany it. i find my 34b bras fit just fine but if i keep growing i'd be curious what size i am and just can't imagine going in to a store even if it was obvious i had breasts, and simply asking for help....how do you initially bring it up without coming off as a perv? i feel most women would think it is a guy asking for a thrilling experience vs necessary one. Until they see the reality of one's breasts
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on July 05, 2019, 10:57:33 AM
I can only speak for myself, but I have heard others have similar experiences. The key is to find a locally owned boutique. Yes, you will pay a little more, but you won't have to worry about your business spread over town by some 20something in a chain store. 

Look at their website. Get a feel for their customers. They may even say that they serve none traditional clients in some fashion. That would be a clue you would be welcome. After you settle on a shop, call them and ask for the owner or manager and honestly say up front you are a male with gynecomastia. You won't be the first man to have said that to them. Then say you would like to see if they will do a bra fitting. Again you won't be the first to ask. If they say no then politely thank them and move to another. If they say yes, then ask would they be willing to set an after hours appointment. Most if not all should say yes. Usually they would be right before normal opening or right at closing time. Along the way they will ask questions to help better guide them to be sure you are getting the service you need. They may ask if you know your size already and do currently wear a bra and if so what size. Those type questions. Questions someone who has breasts should be able to or at least be aware of. If you don't know the answer, don't BS them. If you are polite and courteous and truthful, even if you sound nervous, you won't come off as a perv. If they have a regular male clientele, they will have dealt with nervous males before. Remember that their male customers are not only gynecomastia males, but cross dressers, MtF transgender, so you more than likely won't be the first male to ask for this kind of service. 

And when you go, enjoy yourself. Let them pamper you if they want. That's part of the fun as well as trying different styles. Listen to what the fitter says. She isn't going to put you into a bra that isn't going to work for you in male mode. That's why you are going to their shop and not VS in the first place. Again, be polite and don't BS them. That's how you get thrown out and a bad reputation among the shops. And if they feel threatened they will toss you right out. They understand nerves. They will work with that. You acting like some not a nice person and that's it. The shop I go to has standing rules of etiquette on their website. If the shop you are going to does, follow it to the letter. You can't go wrong.

Have fun and good luck and let us know how it goes!
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Steven618 on July 05, 2019, 12:07:34 PM
Well Im a 34b, 36a so I dont feel the need to buy bras just yet. I had a few but tossed them as pregnancy got further down the road and began feeling like I'm having a daughter I dont need bras and the whole macho ego blah blah blah got the best of me and now i go for my usual 5 mile daily runs and by the end feels more like i had a 4hour chest workout lol. So i got some sports bras but far as regular bras go just havent had the time. And I cant wear them all day like most of the lucky guys here with wives who understand encourage and even help shop. 

Far as boutiques go, do you pay to shop there as in pay for the appointment or do they just help make sure your comfortable and schedule times where your exposure will be far from being made?
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Johndoe1 on July 05, 2019, 12:58:11 PM
If you go and get fitted you need to buy at least one bra. They may spend 15 minutes or more on one bra and time is money for them and you don't want to get a bad rap for coming in and wasting their time and you don't buy anything. They would consider that being a jerk or perv-ish. You don't want that or Walmart will be the only local retailer to get bras from. 
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Steven618 on July 05, 2019, 01:02:26 PM
also can't justify spending 50-70 dollars on a single bra. i will stick to walmart and such till it seems wise to get properly fitted if i lucked up developed in to a size that called for a fitting
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: SideSet on July 05, 2019, 01:50:54 PM
Johndoe is spot on

As I have said before, Soma has been great for me
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: hammer on July 06, 2019, 02:03:29 PM
I agree, if you go for the fitting be prepared to buy at least one bra, but I do guarantee you that, that bra will fit and fell good on you all day long, but until you are ready to do that, shop at Walmart!
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: paulpark21 on September 02, 2019, 12:20:34 PM
It seems that most guys on here have come to tolerate their breasts but would rather not have them. I was surprised that I found that I love having them. Breasts can be very beautiful and I see mine as such. Everyone is different and that includes those of us who see our breast development as a positive. It's not at all about being sexual, just as an infant's relationship with its mother's breasts is not sexual. The infant only appreciates the milk it suckles and I suspect that most of us who were nursed still carry an appreciation for our mother's breasts and by extension all breasts.

I do respect fully those who wear bras for comfort and those who chose to minimize the appearance of their breasts. But equal respect goes to those men who are comfortable allowing them to be seen by others. Remaining respectful of conventions on public nudity, this is exactly how women's clothes have evolved. It has long been acceptable for women to wear revealing clothing and so should it be fore men. The big problem is that society (especially ours) has oversexualized breasts.


Like you, I like my breasts.  My projection is fairly obvious, but I don't flaunt them nor do I hide them.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: aboywithgirls on September 02, 2019, 01:53:20 PM
It seems that most guys on here have come to tolerate their breasts but would rather not have them. I was surprised that I found that I love having them. Breasts can be very beautiful and I see mine as such. Everyone is different and that includes those of us who see our breast development as a positive. It's not at all about being sexual, just as an infant's relationship with its mother's breasts is not sexual. The infant only appreciates the milk it suckles and I suspect that most of us who were nursed still carry an appreciation for our mother's breasts and by extension all breasts.

I do respect fully those who wear bras for comfort and those who chose to minimize the appearance of their breasts. But equal respect goes to those men who are comfortable allowing them to be seen by others. Remaining respectful of conventions on public nudity, this is exactly how women's clothes have evolved. It has long been acceptable for women to wear revealing clothing and so should it be fore men. The big problem is that society (especially ours) has oversexualized breasts.


Like you, I like my breasts.  My projection is fairly obvious, but I don't flaunt them nor do I hide them.
I have the same feeling about my breasts. I won't flaunt them or hide them. The right bra improves my comfort and appearance. It will lift, support and shape my breasts.  A nice rounded look is what I seek in a bra. I can only get this from underwire bras. 

If you're going for a fitting, it's a good idea to bring a few different tops with you to try on with any new bras that you may be considering adding to your top drawer. You may like the look and feel of the bra but, it may not be the look or provide the shape you want or need to wear with certain tops.
Title: Re: Total Acceptance
Post by: Steven618 on September 02, 2019, 02:09:59 PM
Agreed with ABWG. I have never gone for a pro fitting, but am confident in my fitting of self enough that I go to walmart and pick out a few bras and then go to the mens section and pick out a few shirts that are similar styles to clothes I have at home, and trust the fit and style will be close enough to the brands I have at home. Then hide the bras under the shirts and go in to the fitting room. Try on each bra with each shirt and make my decision based on how much is noticeable and how much comfort is provided. I'm at a point where I don't care at all who sees the straps or hooks on band, I don't think anyone is seeing those, it is the cups I look at. The chest is a very focal point on anyone's body and one of the first things I think anyone notices on anyone. So I want to make sure the cups are comfortable and give my chest a shape I like that won't be too defined as boobs. 

I wear simple t shirt bras and have worn everything from t shirts to dress shirts to tank tops. Barelythere or other pull over bras have very similar style and look as an undershirt/wifebeater and have went running in a tank top and the bra band and straps were visible a bit but you couldn't see the separation of skin and bra and looked just like my undershirt was showing. Kinda daring but sometimes being daring provides you with confidence of being out there in the public with a bra on and realizing it's easier then assumed to enjoy it and not be so paranoid