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Told you should wear a bra
« on: March 09, 2019, 02:42:01 PM »
How many of you were told by a wife, mother, GF, or female friend or relative that you should start wearing a bra because you had breasts in need of support, modesty, etc.?

How did that conversation go, how did you feel, and what was the result?

I am not talking about the teasing, ridicule, and comments I am sure most of us have heard plenty of.  I am talking about a constructive suggestion.



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Re: Told you should wear a bra
« Reply #1 on: March 09, 2019, 11:10:23 PM »
Hi Sideset, my old endo Dr suggested I wear a bra and the wife did not care too much for that idea, but she has accepted it as I have doubled in size since then. My wife still has an issue with regular back clasp bras but has no problem with sports bras although I do wear a regular bra when she is not around or I am out by myself for the day.

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« Reply #2 on: March 10, 2019, 08:25:51 AM »
I was told by my grandmother that I needed a bra. The next day, my mother sat me down and took the time to explain to me why I need a bra. I
Bras aren't for women, they're for breasts.

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« Reply #3 on: March 11, 2019, 12:38:22 AM »
She didn't exactly suggest that I should wear a bra but one day my wife commented that I was starting to look like a B cup.  Soon afterwards I started coming back from mountain bike rides with my boobs hurting.  I worked up the courage to ask her to buy me a sports bra, which she did.  I soon realized that I was just plain more comfortable with a bra than without.  Now I seldom leave the house without one and I am completely used to it.  I usually wear pullover type bras and don't think most people can tell but I have noticed in photos of myself that they do show a bit and noticed today that one of my Hawaiian shirts I haven't worn in a while is snug in the chest.  My wife is OK with it but talking about it seems to make her uncomfortable for some reason.

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Re: Told you should wear a bra
« Reply #4 on: March 11, 2019, 07:50:00 AM »
My wife said one time that it looked like I would fill a bra better then she did! So she bought me one and i did! That was years before the kids and the bad vasectomy and before I got so big!
I'd rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I'm not!

I am who I am,  and I'm not going to change to please anyone!

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« Reply #5 on: March 11, 2019, 10:23:08 AM »
It was my mother years ago, when I started wearing a bra full time who was taken back. My first bras that were fitted for me were a 34C. I was 16. I'll never forget when she told me that we were the same cup size. She explained to me 30 years ago how sister sizing works. She was a 36B and me being a 34C made us the same cup size. She also told me that she hoped that I didn't take after my father's side like my sister.  Well, I  did. I was very uncomfortable having such a frank conversation with my mother about my breasts and bras. Looking back though, it was for the best. It helped me get to acceptance. 

Im 45 now, and I'm more than ok with wearing a bra. Its just another article of clothing that people who have breasts should be wearing. Men and women both have breasts and those who need a bra and want to wear a bra should be wearing a bra. 

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« Reply #6 on: March 11, 2019, 12:36:47 PM »
When first married my wife and I set down and talked about my breasts. She didn't think I was big enough and she didn't care if I had a chest or not. She was not in favor of both of us wearing a bra. Then years later, due to ptosis, and exercising, I developed a rash under my breasts. After that got cleaned up, in conversation with my doctor, the conversation started about wearing a bra and she agreed that support was probably a good idea. The wife wasn't happy to hear that but when she saw me she knew it was worth a try. She tolerants but wishes I didn't have to wear a bra. She looks me over every day before I leave the house to be sure nothing is out of place. 

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« Reply #7 on: March 11, 2019, 01:21:21 PM »
Like JohnDoe my wife of almost 3 years doesnt see my chest as breasts even though I'm mildly filling a b cup now and have doubled in size in regard to tissue growth in recent months. But I play it off to she sees it every day. Anyways...she also is not fond of a bra and doesnt know wear any. But I was at the gym the other day and the same guy I posted about commenting a month or so ago has been there often and we talk a bit and he told me the other day "I feel were friends now at least here, and I got to he honest, you may want to look in to wearing a bra if those keep growing" I laughed and said I have a few sports bras just dont feel comfortable changing out and in at the gym and he understood why and said they look bigger than before and figured you knew but thought I'd just suggest it. 

I dont ever expect my wife to say that lol but it would be nice if my dr did just to give some validation 

Re: Told you should wear a bra
« Reply #8 on: March 11, 2019, 02:50:46 PM »
II'm a lucky guy. My wife is fine with my boobs and bra. She understands that I need a bra. When we first met, I wore a binder 9n the first few dates. I had told her that I usually wore a bra.i that I was a 38C back then. She was a little taken back but wanted me to be me and encouraged me to be comfortable. Things were under control until I turned 40 and then had a thyroidectomy and the girls grew and grew. I was outgrowing my bras every 6 months. 

In the last year or so things have stabilized and I lost about 40 pounds. We can share most of our bras. She's more of a 36F/G and I'm a 36G/H. She knows that I really have to wear bra and there's never any grief from her.

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« Reply #9 on: March 11, 2019, 03:54:23 PM »
That's crazy I cant imagine. being a c cup let alone being a c cup and suddenly growing to a d then dd and beyond to a G cup. Kudos on your wife being so supportive and encouraging to be comfortable. I imagine as ok as you are in your own skin at this point, having breasts that large and in a bra that tends to put things out more. In public and such is quite the attention getter. I am wearing my bra to go to the court house later for property tax reassessing and I'm wondering how quick people will see my 34b bra on my frame. But gotta get used to it. Hope my wife is as encouraging as yours is if mine continue to grow as they seem to

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Re: Told you should wear a bra
« Reply #10 on: March 12, 2019, 12:37:57 AM »
Actually it was my wife that said I needed a bra.  I came in to the house and fell into my chairs sweaty as hell and dead from moving the entire yard in 80+ temperatures.  the entire area under my breast were sweating like hell.  The wife took one look at me and said I had bigger breast than our daughter and that I needed a bra.  So the next day we went to Wal-Mart looking for bras and she got me a sports bra which I hated and the next day I went back and exchanged it for the pull over light weight bra that she had also pointed out the previous day.  At first she was not really happy that I was wearing a bra but when three doctors and a mammogram said I had Gynecomastia she started to except it more and is now indifferent to it.  She will even claim one of my bras as hers' till she looks look's at the size and we have a few bras that are identical since we bought them together. At the time I was a 36B and she is a 36D.  I have now moved up to a 38B. Her only complaint is that I have too many bras but she has double what I have.  Still I am happy.  I wear what I want and she never complains.  She only wants to make sure my straps are not showing in public and I am fine with that because I don't want them to show either.
If you got them flaunt them.  We all wear bras so wear what you like and to hell with the rest.

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Re: Told you should wear a bra
« Reply #11 on: March 12, 2019, 07:14:22 AM »
As I've said many times, my mife and daughter's not only are supportive of me wearing the bra, but had been after me for a long time to go for a fitting before my primary care physician suggested that I get one. They also would tell me to put one on when I wasn't wearing one as it would help me look better, but also knew that I didn't like to have one on all the time. They will also suggest different types of bras that I might like to try once in awhile too, but I just stick to the ones I got right now until I get to my final goal on my weight loss. 


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