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Why not?
« on: August 31, 2019, 06:33:56 AM »
I was reading through some recent posts and comments and while I realize that we are all.at different stages of dealing with our breast development,  a common theme seems to be comfort vs. Concealment. This led me to thinking about why do we feel the need to conceal or hide our breasts and our bras.

Bob just posted about mens breasts are really no different than women's breasts. They are breasts! If we can benefit from a bra the same way that women do, than why don't we just do it? 

Now granted, I've been wearing a bra for about 30 years now and its just something that I do every day. My hope is for these of us who don't want do have surgery to "correct " our chests, that you can be free to wear what makes you comfortable and start being able to promote your assets rather than hide them.

Linkback: https://www.gynecomastia.org/smf/index.php?topic=35423.0
Bras aren't for women, they're for breasts.

Re: Why not?
« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2019, 09:19:40 AM »
We feel the need because contrary to peoples comfort themselves the mass of society is not keen to it. Im comfortable with myself but i am not going to wear shirts that show them off. Bras are for breasts but showcasing them im leave that to women. I wish the stigma wasnt there. I would love to just go out in my day to day shirts and not worry about peoppe seeing my bras or cleavage but while passerbys wont say anything directly im not comfortable with being that guy in town who has breasts big enough for a bra. People would rather assume you are trans and tell others or post on social media about a guy they saw or worse a pic they took and i just dont care for that attn

Re: Why not?
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2019, 11:01:51 AM »
I understand what you are saying. I'm not talking about competing with women, showing cleavage or getting the latest Victoria secret Bombshell push up bra. I'm talking about putting on a modest tshirt bra and a tshirt and just being comfortable without  looking like 2 puppies chasing each other under your top.

Re: Why not?
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2019, 11:06:28 AM »
Ah, if only it was that easy...

What we have is not exactly normal.  It is a female characteristic, and female development on a man is not really natural (even though it is much more common nowadays, but that spike in occurances is largely from unnatural causes).  People don't like to accept something unnatural.  And wearing a bra essentially means embracing that female development.  Which obviously makes it worse.

That being said, I can see it becoming more and more acceptable as it becomes the norm and people get used to seeing it.

Re: Why not?
« Reply #4 on: August 31, 2019, 02:40:10 PM »
Thing is, people care but won't confront. They will post pics they took in passing and put them online to mock but wont ask you "man not to be rude but please explain that". For people like me who are 33 and began growing at 30 it is a fear contrary to embracing them myself. Because I see how everyone talks about women who dont shave their legs. And how some here have made fun or scoffed at dudes who wear womens clothing for comfort or preference or worse completely discarded people who identify as trans and commit to transitioning. 

Saying that to say if people on here mock and scoff at those who are different then why the hell would we ever expect people to not judge the hell out of us and expect to take us as honest men in bras with busts as just that. 

Overall, why not is the question...so do what you are comfortable with doing. Trust yourself and the circles you belong to, to not judge mock and outcast you or ridicule your situation. Cause in the end it is you who has to deal with you. We can ask for it to be normal and truth is the more confident you are the less it will go noticed. There is a point where it is impossible to hide but only like 3 here have that issue and they all wear bras and all have families and careers so take their experience for a recipe in confidence. 
But until there is a flooding of massive exposure to people like us, people who arent like us are not going to accept it. They may only do a 2nd take and keep walking and forget it 5 min later. Or they may know you and expel you. Either way be comfortable with self and be the best version of you and those who refuse it F em and those who question it inform them and those who look confront and give them reason to walk away going damn glad I know more than i did when i was staring. 

Re: Why not?
« Reply #5 on: August 31, 2019, 03:49:48 PM »
Ah, if only it was that easy...

What we have is not exactly normal.  It is a female characteristic, and female development on a man is not really natural (even though it is much more common nowadays, but that spike in occurances is largely from unnatural causes).  People don't like to accept something unnatural.  And wearing a bra essentially means embracing that female development.  Which obviously makes it worse.

That being said, I can see it becoming more and more acceptable as it becomes the norm and people get used to seeing it.
I have lived with breasts since I was 15. I have gone through decades being afraid of what people MIGHT think of me because I have a VERY feminine trait that could get me beaten up in a bikers bar or hit on in a gay bar. I get exactly what you are talking about. I lived it. The fear. The paranoia. It's real. I have the years of taunting and inappropriate touching to prove it.

Several years ago I decided I needed support and I was not going to let others dictate to me how I am going to live my life. While I am not completely there yet, my comfort outweighs what others think. So far, since I started standing my ground, no one has challenged me. I think the PC world we live in has helped as well. While we are not anywhere near acceptance, we are closer. If you act confident, people aren't going to challenge you. That's been my experience.

Only you know what is acceptable to you.