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Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #45 on: August 25, 2019, 05:25:45 PM »
I think that a cami is a must with any button down. I didn't used to until I was asked about it at a fitting  and the girl suggested that I try one. They are soft and comfortable and they hide the tell tale bra silhouette. 
Bras aren't for women, they're for breasts.

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #46 on: August 26, 2019, 02:19:38 PM »
I agree racer back or front closures are your best friends. I am a 34B and if and when I wear a bra out I love my maidenform bras. Most of them have strap sliders on the front and the front closures really hide everything a man may fear being seen. When working out i wear a barelythere comfort bra. Not a sports bra but it is designed as a tank top and gives very minor compression but full support for me. I wear fairly standard t shirts. But wear darker colors as I always have so no one wonders why i stay to a certain shade but all my bras are neutral colors black tan beige white gray and either comfort bras or t shirt bras with front clips. No push up frilly patterns or anything that may cause attn. 
Though im not gonna lie i do wish i could show them off sometimes. Got em may as well flaunt em right lol damn stigmas

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #47 on: August 26, 2019, 02:27:36 PM »
This might get expensive, considering that wearing bras will mean having to be extremely picky, and from what I'm told here also having to add some other stuff.

It seems that instead of hoping to afford one per month, I might as well hope to afford one every second month...

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #48 on: August 26, 2019, 03:15:37 PM »
Mehh depending on your bust I'd assume. Im a 34B cup and fill it pretty fully. I workout i wear fitted shirts or slightly loose shirts that are just reg t shirts just not for fitted. I think confidence and not adding attn to yourself will so a lot vs trying to buy any and all things to avoid attn. I stay away from sheer fabrics or super light colored shirts and no one has said or gave me noticeable gazes contrary to if i were to pull my shirt down tight or stretch arms back etc you would see my bra cups easily but instead just looks like slight man boob and it seems ok unless you are a full c cup or more you're probably ok

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #49 on: August 26, 2019, 03:37:06 PM »
I'll have to wait and see what I end up with.  I'm guessing it'll be 34B or C.  It just depends how much I lose up there.

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Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #50 on: August 26, 2019, 06:29:30 PM »
JohannK: If you wear tight cycling clothes, I assume you are a road biker.  I mountain bike and even with my B size boobs, a bra is mandatory for comfort.  The first time I borrowed my wife's bra and went for a ride, it felt so good I was hitting bumps on purpose.  I need to lose about 20 lb so I don't wear tight clothes because it makes me look like an old fat guy, which I am.  I ride wearing baggy shorts and a loose T shirt with a pullover leisure bra, which is basically a light duty sport bra with no hardware.  I have caught a few women staring at my chest but I think it is the boobs they see and not the bra.

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #51 on: August 27, 2019, 03:37:21 AM »
Your assumption was correct.  Road all the way.

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #52 on: September 02, 2019, 12:03:55 PM »
I wear a tank top under a shirt.  It pretty much hides any bra straps.  Go with a shirt that is one or two sizes larger that what you usually wear.

How important will it be with men's shirts?

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #53 on: September 02, 2019, 12:20:57 PM »
I am a 34B cup and the bra is quite apparent with the cups in some of my bras. All are unpadded and some are more concealed than others in regard to discretion. I do not wear overly sized t shirts, or patterns or pockets. My t shirts are standard size Large t shirts and fit me as they always have before my boobs became honest boobs. I find a tank top does allow slight compression over the bra to give the chest itself a bit more modesty and bras like mine with strap adjusters on the front completely disguise the straps themselves. I feel the back hooks don't really do any showcasing and it is always the adjuster clips that give the ah ha that is a bra look. And a guys shirt isn't as form fitting or as thin material as a womans shirt so the band isn't prone to be shown where it is typically when you see where a womans bra band is. 

All in all, unless you are quite busty like C-D-E cup I think you will be just fine, being as you are and dressing as you always have. Unless I wear a total form fitting shirt, you are not noticing my b cups. If I do wear a form fitting shirt I wear a barelythere comfort bra that is shaped and fits like a tank top and gives me compression and comfort without squishing things uncomfortably and no one is the wiser. Even went to my chiropractor in them and they run there hands down my spine finding hot spots to pop and never did I ever think she ever felt the band of the bra on the comfort bras. I think it is absolutely true that no one is looking for a man in a bra. We are cause we have boobs and most wear bras and we either want to see other men in them for solace and security that we are not alone, or just in simple observation. But I don't think one needs to worry too much about wearing a typical t shirt outside of the color of it. My t shirt bras, and bralettes are not padded, not frilly or lacy, not push up or anything that directs attn to them or gives more accentuation. They are neutral colors, and fit snug as I think is a sign of more growth, but give great support and comfort and discretion. 

If you look at men in general you will see from side angles (which is what I think is the most attention giving angle) that many's chest sticks out a bit. Not anything like ours usually, but nonetheless when you take in to account how our arms sit on the side and move back and forth and as much as we move ourselves and if we are sitting we aren't jutting our chests out, and a lot of our general postures are not chest out shoulders back, they are general male postures. When you take in to account ALL of our factors in regard to posture, position, who is really looking for our bras, etc you should find a lot of calming over the fact that there is just too much going on for people to really notice, and if they do notice they probably aren't thinking AH HA BRA BOY!!!!!! they are probably just thinking hmmm dude has some boobs...and then goes back to looking at their phone or forgets about it in general a minute later. 

We live in a super attention deficit era. Where people of all ages are consumed by everything in front of them and that alone tells me unless I'm wearing a low cut push up bra or wearing a tank top with straps showing on the side, or walking around with my chest out shoulders back, then no one in their life is going to know I'm wearing a bra, unless they rub my back and feel the band, which is something I have total control over and my wife is the only one who rubs my back lol so I just make sure I don't wear a bra around her and I am good to go.. 

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #54 on: September 02, 2019, 12:44:39 PM »
I am a 34B cup and the bra is quite apparent with the cups in some of my bras. All are unpadded and some are more concealed than others in regard to discretion. I do not wear overly sized t shirts, or patterns or pockets. My t shirts are standard size Large t shirts and fit me as they always have before my boobs became honest boobs. I find a tank top does allow slight compression over the bra to give the chest itself a bit more modesty and bras like mine with strap adjusters on the front completely disguise the straps themselves. I feel the back hooks don't really do any showcasing and it is always the adjuster clips that give the ah ha that is a bra look. And a guys shirt isn't as form fitting or as thin material as a womans shirt so the band isn't prone to be shown where it is typically when you see where a womans bra band is.

All in all, unless you are quite busty like C-D-E cup I think you will be just fine, being as you are and dressing as you always have. Unless I wear a total form fitting shirt, you are not noticing my b cups. If I do wear a form fitting shirt I wear a barelythere comfort bra that is shaped and fits like a tank top and gives me compression and comfort without squishing things uncomfortably and no one is the wiser. Even went to my chiropractor in them and they run there hands down my spine finding hot spots to pop and never did I ever think she ever felt the band of the bra on the comfort bras. I think it is absolutely true that no one is looking for a man in a bra. We are cause we have boobs and most wear bras and we either want to see other men in them for solace and security that we are not alone, or just in simple observation. But I don't think one needs to worry too much about wearing a typical t shirt outside of the color of it. My t shirt bras, and bralettes are not padded, not frilly or lacy, not push up or anything that directs attn to them or gives more accentuation. They are neutral colors, and fit snug as I think is a sign of more growth, but give great support and comfort and discretion.

If you look at men in general you will see from side angles (which is what I think is the most attention giving angle) that many's chest sticks out a bit. Not anything like ours usually, but nonetheless when you take in to account how our arms sit on the side and move back and forth and as much as we move ourselves and if we are sitting we aren't jutting our chests out, and a lot of our general postures are not chest out shoulders back, they are general male postures. When you take in to account ALL of our factors in regard to posture, position, who is really looking for our bras, etc you should find a lot of calming over the fact that there is just too much going on for people to really notice, and if they do notice they probably aren't thinking AH HA BRA BOY!!!!!! they are probably just thinking hmmm dude has some boobs...and then goes back to looking at their phone or forgets about it in general a minute later.

We live in a super attention deficit era. Where people of all ages are consumed by everything in front of them and that alone tells me unless I'm wearing a low cut push up bra or wearing a tank top with straps showing on the side, or walking around with my chest out shoulders back, then no one in their life is going to know I'm wearing a bra, unless they rub my back and feel the band, which is something I have total control over and my wife is the only one who rubs my back lol so I just make sure I don't wear a bra around her and I am good to go..
Let's see.  You said the back closing hooks don't really matter so much.  That's certainly good news.  I did some searching online, and only found two front-closing racerback bras at one shop, both in fancy colours and with not-so-smooth designs at the front.  Also, money is a very important factor.  Unlike some who can spend $100+ on a bra, I'm looking at maybe around R300 (it's roughly R15 for a US dollar) every few months.  If I'm careful, that is.  So having more to choose from will help bring cost down.  I've also wondered, since multiway bras can be worn strapless, does that mean the straps can be reversed to have the adjusters in a more suitable place?

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #55 on: September 02, 2019, 01:46:40 PM »
I am a 34B cup and the bra is quite apparent with the cups in some of my bras. All are unpadded and some are more concealed than others in regard to discretion. I do not wear overly sized t shirts, or patterns or pockets. My t shirts are standard size Large t shirts and fit me as they always have before my boobs became honest boobs. I find a tank top does allow slight compression over the bra to give the chest itself a bit more modesty and bras like mine with strap adjusters on the front completely disguise the straps themselves. I feel the back hooks don't really do any showcasing and it is always the adjuster clips that give the ah ha that is a bra look. And a guys shirt isn't as form fitting or as thin material as a womans shirt so the band isn't prone to be shown where it is typically when you see where a womans bra band is.

All in all, unless you are quite busty like C-D-E cup I think you will be just fine, being as you are and dressing as you always have. Unless I wear a total form fitting shirt, you are not noticing my b cups. If I do wear a form fitting shirt I wear a barelythere comfort bra that is shaped and fits like a tank top and gives me compression and comfort without squishing things uncomfortably and no one is the wiser. Even went to my chiropractor in them and they run there hands down my spine finding hot spots to pop and never did I ever think she ever felt the band of the bra on the comfort bras. I think it is absolutely true that no one is looking for a man in a bra. We are cause we have boobs and most wear bras and we either want to see other men in them for solace and security that we are not alone, or just in simple observation. But I don't think one needs to worry too much about wearing a typical t shirt outside of the color of it. My t shirt bras, and bralettes are not padded, not frilly or lacy, not push up or anything that directs attn to them or gives more accentuation. They are neutral colors, and fit snug as I think is a sign of more growth, but give great support and comfort and discretion.

If you look at men in general you will see from side angles (which is what I think is the most attention giving angle) that many's chest sticks out a bit. Not anything like ours usually, but nonetheless when you take in to account how our arms sit on the side and move back and forth and as much as we move ourselves and if we are sitting we aren't jutting our chests out, and a lot of our general postures are not chest out shoulders back, they are general male postures. When you take in to account ALL of our factors in regard to posture, position, who is really looking for our bras, etc you should find a lot of calming over the fact that there is just too much going on for people to really notice, and if they do notice they probably aren't thinking AH HA BRA BOY!!!!!! they are probably just thinking hmmm dude has some boobs...and then goes back to looking at their phone or forgets about it in general a minute later.

We live in a super attention deficit era. Where people of all ages are consumed by everything in front of them and that alone tells me unless I'm wearing a low cut push up bra or wearing a tank top with straps showing on the side, or walking around with my chest out shoulders back, then no one in their life is going to know I'm wearing a bra, unless they rub my back and feel the band, which is something I have total control over and my wife is the only one who rubs my back lol so I just make sure I don't wear a bra around her and I am good to go..
Let's see.  You said the back closing hooks don't really matter so much.  That's certainly good news.  I did some searching online, and only found two front-closing racerback bras at one shop, both in fancy colours and with not-so-smooth designs at the front.  Also, money is a very important factor.  Unlike some who can spend $100+ on a bra, I'm looking at maybe around R300 (it's roughly R15 for a US dollar) every few months.  If I'm careful, that is.  So having more to choose from will help bring cost down.  I've also wondered, since multiway bras can be worn strapless, does that mean the straps can be reversed to have the adjusters in a more suitable place?
Great question about multiway bras. The answer is yes and no. I have a Freya Deco multiway/ strapless bra that has straps that can be easily reversed, removed, or crossed in a racerback style. I also have a few bras that can be connected via a "j" hook to convert to a racer back however they are not removable what so ever. 

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #56 on: September 02, 2019, 02:01:32 PM »
I personally don't think 60-100.00 bras are necessary at all for long term use. I buy on eBay honestly and have never had any negative experiences in wear and tear when received or how long they have lasted. I have 5 bras, and 2 are comfort bras and none of them have had any issues in wiring, straps, bands or comfort. I have had them for a few months and with my recent growth spurt they have become fitting to very snug and pretty sure I'm outgrowing them. Unless you are a large C cup or beyond that then I don't think you will find cheaper bras to be a nuisance in longevity or comfort. I'm a mild B cup and wear a bra daily except when around my wife and wear one for probably 12-14hours a day and wash once a week and hang dry and not a single bra of mine cost more than 6 bucks. 

As far as adjusters, it doesn't matter how you make the straps, if they are on the back they will remain on your back. Maidenform is what I wear and they have a lot of bras with adjusters on the front. I would look in to some of those. Or multiway bras that allow you to remove the straps and manipulate their positions

Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #57 on: September 02, 2019, 05:04:34 PM »
I was basically thinking of starting with a 2-pack for up to R300 (maybe up to R350, but I can't go higher).  And as I said, that's every second month at the most.

Also, it seems getting exercise will be harder than I expected.  I can ride my bicycle, but it takes its toll on my arms.  So I'm starting to wonder if I'll have to approach the weight loss much more gradually than I planned (I'm back to where I started).  So I might just end up getting fitted before I go down to a 34 band.


For those who might wonder (mainly targeted at those who don't understand the idea of acceptance), there are worse things in life than having a bit extra tissue on the chest.  Pain disorders are not fun.

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Re: To bra, or not to bra
« Reply #58 on: September 02, 2019, 06:33:30 PM »
I wear a tank top under a shirt.  It pretty much hides any bra straps.  Go with a shirt that is one or two sizes larger that what you usually wear.

How important will it be with men's shirts?
All I wear is men's clothes