Does your loved one suffer from Gynecomastia? You are not alone.

Gynecomastia affects more than half of men at some point of their lives. If your partner, son, friend or relative suffers from this condition, we are here to help. We opened a group on our forum system that supports friends and family members - it is free to join. You can ask questions and communicate with others in the same situation.

How to Approach This Topic?

Even if your guy is not talking about this and pretends it is not bothering him, in most cases he is aware and troubled. Regardless of the cause, gynecomastia usually takes a psychological toll. He may feel shame and try to hide it; he probably avoids certain activities and clothing, limiting his lifestyle.

You know your guy - but in general, it is best if you carefully talk about the topic if he is sensitive and touchy about it.

"The Talk" - Key Messages to Deliver

  • It's a common condition
  • In most adult cases, it is unlikely to go away by itself
  • It needs to be diagnosed by a doctor in a private consultation. If it is mostly fat, it is called Pseudogynecomastia and there are a few ways to reduce appearance, including non-surgical options such as diet and exercise. If the chest contains hard breast tissue / disc, gynecomastia surgery is needed to restore a masculine look.
  • There are compression garments that can lessen the appearance of gynecomastia as a temporary solution.
  • He is not alone - he has support from you, family and friends; he can join our online forums and anonymously post questions, photos and get advice from other members of the community and from surgeons.

Does Your Son Suffer from Gynecomastia?

If he's a teenager, it is most likely to go away - in 95% of the boys. If the swelled chest remains when he goes to high school, it is usually the point in time when he will be more conscious about it and will suffer if it not resolved. Read what a mother tells about her experience with her son's gynecomastia.

If he is open to the idea - and most teens spend so many hours online with their phones - he can post questions and talk the condition privately in a special online forum.

Ideally, you can encourage him to visit his pediatrician who will evaluate the breasts. Firm and fibrous breast tissue will not go away with age or exercise. Likewise, if the breast is severely enlarged, it is unlikely it would return to normal shape without surgery. Since his pediatrician knows him since an early age, he can help to determine what to do and will tell you if it makes sense to look for a gynecomastia surgeon near you who will also evaluate the need of surgery. In some cases, a doctor may recommend surgery on teens as early as 12 years old. You want to take part in a process, along with the physicians and your child, in which you will discuss options together to make the right decision.

Our page on teen gynecomastia provides a more detailed overview. It is worth noting that there are a few drugs in the pipeline that may be able to treat teen gynecomastia - read here.

Does Your Partner Suffer from Gynecomastia?

When it comes to your significant other, first of all ask yourself - does it bother him enough? try to look at it from his perspective and understand how disturbing it is for him.

  • If he does not limit himself and seems to be fine with it, and you feel uncomfortable with his "man boobs", you need to be careful. Identify how strongly you feel about it and prepare a way to delicately talk about it without evoking denial, rage, fight and trauma. If you never spoke about this before, and he takes it the wrong way, it can cause problems in your relationship as well as hurt his self-confidence. It is not advised to bring up more sensitive issues, such as the effect gynecomastia has (if it has) on your sex lives. It is important that he feels you love him and accept him, but if his gynecomastia bothers you or him, make sure he understands he needs to deal with it.
  • If both of you are troubled by his condition, in addition to the key messages above, you may want to explain how this condition limits your relationship - you may entice him to deal with the problem if you talk about things you can do together if he did not feel uncomfortable.
  • Men often do not admit pressure/advice from friends and family members to undergo surgery. When they meet their doctor, they will usually present it as their own choice. In some cases, the reason your man takes the plunge and goes to see the doctor is that you were able to slowly plant the idea in his mind.

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