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Gynecomastia Acceptance => Acceptance Garments => Topic started by: Traveler on November 28, 2020, 02:32:45 PM

Title: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Traveler on November 28, 2020, 02:32:45 PM
I’m obsessed with bra shopping! I’m not buying all I see but I really want to expand my collection. Could be years of denial about needing bras but now that I’ve accepted I want to try all different styles. 
Shame Covid is keeping the boutiques closed for fittings. Otherwise I’d have 20 instead of 4 bras.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Johndoe1 on November 28, 2020, 04:46:54 PM
And women HATE to bra shop.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: taxmapper on November 28, 2020, 05:02:00 PM
Talk about obsession.   

I am with you on this. 
I have surfed Amazon, Pinterest, and others for various styles of sports bras. 

Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Johndoe1 on November 28, 2020, 05:28:27 PM
My own thought is we have chosen to wear bras for the support and comfort wearing a bra gives. Women are told at a young age that she has to wear a bra and it's not a choice. That may have something to do with the difference towards bras.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: blad on November 28, 2020, 07:33:01 PM
The never ending hunt for the perfect bra.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Traveler on November 28, 2020, 08:41:51 PM
My own thought is we have chosen to wear bras for the support and comfort wearing a bra gives. Women are told at a young age that she has to wear a bra and it's not a choice. That may have something to do with the difference towards bras.
Could be. I know my wife doesn’t like shopping for bras and only likes like two styles. At least she let me help her get better fitting ones.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Traveler on November 28, 2020, 08:42:32 PM
The never ending hunt for the perfect bra.
Exactly!!(https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/72x72/1f604.png)
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Johndoe1 on November 29, 2020, 06:53:48 AM
The never ending hunt for the perfect bra.
That's me too.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: aboywithgirls on November 29, 2020, 08:19:38 AM
My own thought is we have chosen to wear bras for the support and comfort wearing a bra gives. Women are told at a young age that she has to wear a bra and it's not a choice. That may have something to do with the difference towards bras.
I believe that there is some truth to that. However, in my case, I started wearing a bra when I was 12. I was told that I HAD to wear a bra when I was 16. That was almost 30 years ago. I still am passionate about my bras. 

I am usually fitted for most of my bras. I have a couple of boutiques that I shop at that actually carry my size. However, if its a bra that I really like, and I want to replace it or get it in a different color, Amazon is Awesome! I can order it in these crazy times and have it in a day or two. These past couple of months because of a.few changes , I have found the need of having more color options of a few of my favorite bras.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Bosh808 on November 30, 2020, 01:40:37 AM
I've ordered quite a few t-shirt bras from Amazon and its hit and mis. However the one's that I like are my favorite. Only problem is when I find a bra I do like, I  go back to order more and Amazon stop selling that brand. I've learned that if you find something that you like, quickly buy more before there sold out. Here is the latest of my orders. 

https://www.amazon.com/DORINA-Womens-Underwired-T-Shirt-Moulded/dp/B079N8Z8LG?pd_rd_w=5IvRB&pf_rd_p=4eebd874-436f-4f05-a794-09646834b2dd&pf_rd_r=73PKBGCPPZN7245DVDY4&pd_rd_r=9f96b81b-c2b5-425d-8fea-d3777ce892b5&pd_rd_wg=xiL3R&pd_rd_i=B079N8Z8LG&ref_=pd_bap_m_rp_2_sc

This one i just got. I've ordered another one another one, hopefully the its consistent with my first purchase. I highly recommend this bra.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B06Y5B1SSZ/ref=ox_sc_act_image_2?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: curiousk on December 07, 2020, 10:24:30 PM
I have to admit that I enjoy bra shopping a lot more than I thought I would.   I like the different styles and look each bra provides.  It's easy to become addicted.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: taxmapper on December 08, 2020, 12:29:16 PM
Same here. 

I use Pinterest to get ideas and shop like mad. 
Then find something subtle but attractive. 


Kind of odd at first, but I was staring at my reflection in the sunroof last night while "shopping", I was leaning back in the SUV while the other half was in a book store. I stared at the protrusions of breasts in the reflection and the bra shape under my shirt...just seemed so natural and complete. 

Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Traveler on December 08, 2020, 01:16:39 PM
I too am sitting in the truck waiting on the wife and thought I’d take a look. Yikes! Thought I was hiding better than this. Guess the wife just doesn’t see it like I do.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: 42CSuprise! on December 08, 2020, 01:28:05 PM
I glanced at the window in an adjacent room while working in the kitchen a moment ago and with sun streaming into the window next to me, my reflection appeared in the other window.  I was drawn to the appearance of my breasts filling out the front of the knit cotton shirt I'm wearing.  They are real and not insubstantial.  How the hell did this happen?  The brassiere I'm wearing puts everything in order and creates quite a remarkable presentation.  Of course, since I live alone, I'm the only one who appreciates the situation... which I do.  Amazing.

My bra obsession is a bit diminished at the moment simply because I've found a couple of styles that work really well for me.  Now I'll do a bit of browsing but buying hasn't been happening of late.  Unlike some men here, I've not gone for a fitting and am not investing in expensive brassieres.  E-Bay is working for me thus far.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: 42CSuprise! on December 08, 2020, 01:31:54 PM
I too am sitting in the truck waiting on the wife and thought I’d take a look. Yikes! Thought I was hiding better than this. Guess the wife just doesn’t see it like I do.

I had to laugh reading this...  I'm single at the moment but I've done my duty as a married man... to a number of women, actually... and I know the first item on the job description for any husband or boy friend is WAITING...  ::)  That's not a bad thing but simply a matter of fact.  Glad you found a way to entertain yourself... posting here with a "selfie..."
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: blad on December 08, 2020, 06:49:45 PM
I have caught myself in the reflection of store windows on many occasions, definitely displaying a bust line.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: curiousk on December 10, 2020, 05:19:27 AM
I too am sitting in the truck waiting on the wife and thought I’d take a look. Yikes! Thought I was hiding better than this. Guess the wife just doesn’t see it like I do.
I hear you about that.   Your pic is what I feel that other people see when they look at me, but I really don't think that people pay enough attention to care.   I see it in the mirror, walking by a store window or while I'm getting dressed.   I'm just happy that I decided to wear bras.   Things are just more comfortable for me and I just don't care if anyone can tell.   You can't hide C cup breasts so just be comfortable.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: gmast on December 10, 2020, 03:53:07 PM
our pic is what I feel that other people see when they look at me, but I really don't think that people pay enough attention to care.
Since I know what you are concerned with, I can see it if I look for it, but If I wasn't looking for it, I wouldn't notice.  You look like a typical middle age guy to me.  The vast majority of the adults that post here seem to be worried about something small on their chests, when their problems are between their ears.  They are looking for mistreatment by others, and then they have this handy (but incorrect) reason for why they think they are mistreated.  Listen to your wife, you don't have an appearance problem.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Traveler on December 10, 2020, 04:10:03 PM
Thanks for all the nice comments. I’m not truly all that concerned, it was more of a musing than anything else. Having recently sister sized to a 40DD I realize I’m not going to completely hide the girls anymore. Even so, I rarely get a second glance and it’s almost always women that do the double take.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: curiousk on December 12, 2020, 09:30:32 AM
I understand that truly.   I, too, find that nobody gives me a second glance or care enough to say anything.  Women are the ones to look twice at me too.  Maybe out of jealousy....;D.   

I'm a C or D in most of the bras I wear.  I don't try to hide them, but just try to be comfortable.  I'm not worried about it anymore.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: taxmapper on December 30, 2020, 10:27:10 PM
My bad. 
I have now searched to Yoga Outlet and Amazon and purchased two more. 
The wife is now showing me pics of various styles. 

I will now have a larger collection of bras than she will. 


:o:P
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: mgr on January 12, 2021, 03:04:49 PM
I certainly understand the bra obsession comment. I enjoy trying on different bras trying to find the elusive perfect fit.  If I did not control myself, I would probably by new bras every thirty days.  I went for a fitting yesterday and walked out with a new bra that fits (at least for now) better than anything I have ever worn.  It was interesting because I have some that are 38B and 38C. The wires on the B's are not fully encasing my tissue anymore. In addition, I had open heart surgery a year ago for a new valve and my sternum needs a taller gore for comfort.  I went to Soma, as usual for me, and was greeted wonderfully.  I tried on some wire free bras and the fit expert told me I needed to move to a D cup in one of them. I am still a bit shocked and taken aback.  I cannot believe the "D" label. It is much more than I am comfortable with at this time.

I also tried on wired bras, which I actually prefer.  One wired C fit great and I bought it.  The wireless bras had a bit too much padding. I easily show, but don't want to "announce" their existence with extra padding at this point, if you know what I mean?  The style purchased is Lightest Lift, which has a wafer thin padding type material which I really like. It helps to hide the nipples, but does not give much extra projection.

I will wear it off and on for a week or two and if it still fits well, I will go back and buy a couple more.  I prefer to purchase in person and try each bra on. My luck has not been the best when ordering on line.

It is easy to be obsessed when it comes to comfort.
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Johndoe1 on January 13, 2021, 09:34:15 AM
I too have come to enjoy trying on bras. After realizing that different styles can shape and give different looks, my apprehension subsided and while I wear underwear bras just about everyday, people noticing me has reduced because I now finally have control over my chest. As several women who know of my need for support have admitted to me, the bra they wear depends on the signal they want to send about themselves or situation. Taking this knowledge, I have modified it to allow me to hide in plan sight and it has been a great relief. And all due to some cloth and wires. I have a much better self image and better body image all due to bras. Who knew?
Title: Re: Backlash: Bra obsession
Post by: Goodnplenty on January 13, 2021, 03:49:34 PM
I'm always amazed at the confidence boost, the improved appearance and how much better they feel when covered and held in place.  It's all very counter intuitive from a male point of view. 
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