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Title: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on October 19, 2020, 06:32:37 PM
I was fat as a kid, then around puberty I grew breasts. Kids made fun of me all the time. As a teenager, I lost weight so I could get girls and it wasn't a big problem. But I still had the breasts and I hated it. In my 20's people at work made fun of me but I just wrote it off as being out of shape. If I could lose weight and bench press it would go away. I'm 57 now, and while I am a flabby guy, I am not obese. 5' 10" 164 lbs. I lose weight but the breasts stay big and when I where a shirt, it doesn't even touch my gut because of the breasts sticking out. 

I'm so sick of it. I have $$ in the bank and I'm finally doing something about it. I have two consultations with surgeons scheduled for the next couple weeks. 

What do you see? Will they tell me to forget surgery and hit the gym, or is there relief in sight? I want a normal chest!
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on October 22, 2020, 02:32:09 PM
Had my consultation today. I'm scheduled for surgery on Jan 20 2020 with Dr Ganchi.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 12, 2020, 12:57:58 AM
Ten weeks from now I'll be recovering. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 12, 2020, 06:37:03 AM
Do you mean 2021?

I can see why you are doing that, as your breasts, even nipples, are female in appearance and I estimate you are an A or B cup, and would look and feel best in a bra. Ever tried one?
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 12, 2020, 12:50:06 PM
Lol.. We'll all be writing 2020 throughout 2021 because there was no 2020!

I put on one of my wife's bras once as a goof and she was not amused. So far I have no need for a bra because they don't really bounce around and cause trouble that way. I just hate having them and I hate the way they look. I have some compression shirts but I don't wear them because it's too uncomfortable. But it's nice to see myself with a somewhat flat chest. 

My wife is not pleased that I made the decision to get surgery. I told her what I was up to every step of the way, but she thinks I'm making a rash decision. She has concerns. Why now? What if I die on the table? What do we tell people? It will be embarrassing when our sons know (they're in their 20's), their girlfriends, their girlfriends families, etcc. How will it change me in general? What if I start into an addiction of "having things done". She loves me the way I am, boobs and all, and sees no reason for change. 
 
I'm prepared with responses to all her concerns, but she's still apprehensive and doesn't share the excitement that I have.  Why surgery now? Because I have the time and the money and I always wanted it done. I'm still a healthy guy. I work hard to support my family and I never splurge on myself. I'm bald, my ears stick out and I have a gut but none of that bothers me. It's the boobs that slowly eat away at my soul. Embarrassment? I'm the one who has feel be embarrassed every time I'm around people. I know they look at me and ask themselves - "wow, why doesn't he do something about that?". Or "why does he dress like that.. oh, I see - he has boobs" I no longer want to be that guy. I'm already thoroughly embarrassed by this problem. It can't be any worse. So what do I care if people laugh at me getting surgery? If they can't be happy for me then I don't want them in my life. These days most normal people are happy for a friend who's making a positive step in their life. 

I just realized, if my wife is embarrassed about friends and others knowing about my surgery, I can tell her that I'll cancel the surgery but we need to go bra shopping!  Instead of our friends complimenting for looking good after I fix my problem, they can compliment my nice pert boobies in my new bra. Now that won't be embarrassing at all, will it?? 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 12, 2020, 11:29:55 PM
I think it is either surgery or a bra. You seem to prefer surgery. Your wife does not seem to like either option. I think you should do what feels best to you. Others don’t have to know the specifics of your medical procedure. Outpatient, right?

BTW, how did the bra fit, feel, look with your breasts?
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 13, 2020, 12:30:38 AM
My wife's bra was way too big. I looked and felt silly in it. Some guys might like the idea of wearing a bra, but not me. I don't get any pleasure, there's nothing erotic or attractive about it. I don't want to accept my boobs, I want them gone.  The only reason I lasted this long is because was in denial and I was somehow able to tune it all out. I told myself that they're not that noticeable and one day I'll lose weight and get in shape and they'll be gone. 

I told her there's no need to tell anyone and I certainly don't want anyone knowing until after it's done. My son lives here and he'll wonder what's up during my recovery, so I have to tell him. He'll tell his gf, etc.. there's no way to avoid it.  I'm fine with it. Once it's done and I'm healed I might tell some friends. It's a big thing in my life and that's what friends are for. 

It's outpatient but I'm getting knocked out.  

My wife's parents are in their 90's and if one of them dies it could be a problem. They're far away and the family would have to travel. If it happens around the day of my surgery or early in my recovery, we'll have to make an excuse for me not to go.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: blad on November 15, 2020, 11:49:47 AM
Before committing to the one way street of surgery and the potential unforeseen complications, I do believe in trying a well fitting bra for a couple of months. I think it has surprised many once they have really tried one that it was a simple solution to their problems. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 15, 2020, 01:08:34 PM
That's great, I'm glad you enjoy your bras. I can see how it helps guys who are big. It's logical, that's why women wear them. But that's  not for me. I've been concealing and accepting my whole life and I'm done with it. I want a chest without womanly breasts.

I look forward to wearing nicer clothes, and more colors. No layers of dark colors. Large men's shirts are always too tight in the chest, and Extra large shirts hang down my shoulders. Finally, I'll be comfortable and look good in off-the-shelf clothes. That alone has me counting the days. When I heal, I'm going shopping!(https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/72x72/1f600.png)
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: boobs are normal on November 16, 2020, 10:54:37 AM
I see female shaped breasts in need of a bra.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 16, 2020, 12:02:51 PM
I hope I enjoy my post-op chest as much as you guys enjoy your bras! ;D
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: JohannK on November 16, 2020, 02:44:54 PM
Good luck with the operation.  While I'm not one for cosmetic surgery (unless it's reconstructive), I understand that the idea of a man having breasts can be hard to wrap your head around, and some can't accept it.  Hopefully it all goes well for you, and hopefully it won't flip that switch that your wife is afraid of (you can't really tell before hand, can you?).
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 20, 2020, 09:20:41 AM
Good luck with the operation.  While I'm not one for cosmetic surgery (unless it's reconstructive), I understand that the idea of a man having breasts can be hard to wrap your head around, and some can't accept it.  Hopefully it all goes well for you, and hopefully it won't flip that switch that your wife is afraid of (you can't really tell before hand, can you?).

I told her there's no chance of that. I have always avoided doctors in my adult life. It took 7 years of nagging from my wife to have a cyst removed from my back. She named it "La Bumpa" ;D Besides I'm too cheap. I'm blowing my wad with this, no more surgery in this lifetime unless it's absolutely required. 

But it's a legitimate concern. It's a slippery slope when you go to a plastic surgeon. Like any business, they want to keep you as a customer and they'll offer you discount coupons on botox, eye and neck lifts, and similar kinds of things. That rubs me the wrong way.  I believe a person should look their age. I know a woman my age who started with a breast reduction and that turned into an eye lift and periodic botox injections. Sure, her skin is tight but she no longer looks like the same person. And what will she look like in ten years, especially if she keeps responding to those discount offers. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: JohannK on November 20, 2020, 09:49:07 AM
Hospitals in general count on surgery.  That's where the money is.  So I can imagine that they would do stuff like that.

In fact my father once (many decades ago) managed to read a referral letter through the envelope, and it went on about how the referring doctor was giving the surgeon a good bypass patient.  Needless to say, my father wasn't impressed (and he hasn't had any issues since then).

I'm actually a lot like you then.  I have some kind of cyst on my foot that can get rather painful if I wear the wrong shoe, but I'm always saying that I'll have it removed "some time".  It's not like it's anything malignent, the doctor himself said that it's just likely to get larger over time.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: blad on November 20, 2020, 11:32:36 AM
But it's a legitimate concern. It's a slippery slope when you go to a plastic surgeon. Like any business, they want to keep you as a customer and they'll offer you discount coupons on botox, eye and neck lifts, and similar kinds of things. 
Be very suspicious if they offer a coupon for breast augmentation after you are done.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on November 21, 2020, 10:51:10 AM
But it's a legitimate concern. It's a slippery slope when you go to a plastic surgeon. Like any business, they want to keep you as a customer and they'll offer you discount coupons on botox, eye and neck lifts, and similar kinds of things.
Be very suspicious if they offer a coupon for breast augmentation after you are done.
Haha.. that's a good one. You never know. If I miss them I might want them put back. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 03, 2021, 12:58:32 AM
I always hated how quickly the holidays fly by but this year I didn't mind it because each day I'm one day closer. 
Monday I have my appt with the PS to plan things out and I have the surgery two weeks from Wednesday. I've been worried that COVID could get in the way. I had to turn down work for next week because I don't want exposure to it. 

I've been counting the days. I don't even want to be seen by any of my friends until after the boobs are gone. It will be the start of a new life. I have an amazing back yard with a beautiful pool and I never ever invite people over to swim because... you know why. 22 years in this house and I'll finally have a pool party. And I won't worry about how I look in a t-shirt, won't have people saying "get in the pool" and feeling shame. 
Jan 20, 2021 it all changes. Spring/Summer 2021, Here I come!

Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 14, 2021, 12:01:25 AM
Since I started my thread in this section, I'll put updates here. 

Less than a week to go before surgery. I have all my meds ready. Yesterday I went to my GP to get an EKG and his official release for surgery. Had to be there at 7:30 am! >:(  Then I went to the lab to draw blood. Tomorrow I have to get a COVID test. Then I come back home and pray that no curve balls come my way leading up to Wednesday. 

My surgery is Wednesday afternoon. That's good. I've been working from home for 20 years and it's hard for me to do things early in the morning. I'm not done pooping until 10:30 am. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 18, 2021, 10:23:09 AM
Time is running out for my  boobs! Two more days and they're out. Got my COVID test back negative. 


Here's a throw-back pic.
I'm between 10 and 11 years old. Either before puberty or at the onset. It was a bad time in my life, kids were making fun of me all the time. I was assaulted on the school bus. Pink belly and tytty twisters, which was very painful. I'd come home with bruises. 

  
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 18, 2021, 10:25:17 AM
Another old pic. Around 11 years old. 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: Dale Warnio on January 18, 2021, 10:39:21 AM
 Good luck with your surgery. 

 Yes, your breasts  were quite noticeable under your tops. 

 People can be unaccepting of those of us who are a bit different 

Again, good luck 
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 20, 2021, 08:08:32 PM
Thanks Dale, you're nice. 

All done. It was a piece of cake. I've had dental work that was way worse. So far not a hint of pain other than the headache which was gone when I woke up. It was from hunger, having to skip my coffee and bagel this morning. I'll have to get used to working at the computer with my elbows glued to my sides.


I'll type more when I'm feeling comfortable at the computer. Right now It's the couch, the TV, the cat and my wife. She's taking good care of me. 

Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: FredL on January 22, 2021, 11:55:41 AM
48 hours post-op

My only real discomfort is constipation and velcro from the vest rubbing against my shoulders. People aren't kidding when they say the experience was painless. I have to keep reminding myself that I had surgery, or else I'll start doing things I shouldn't. I feel like I can do anything I normally do.

Went for my first post-op appointment yesterday and got to look at things. The results look amazing. My boobs are really gone. Didn't take a post-op pic because my chest still has the marker lines all over and there's a good amount of bruising. I go back for the 1 week appt and that's when I'll have some real before and after pics.

I dreaded the thought of drainage tubes with bottles but none of that was needed. There hasn't been any leakage. I'm barely swollen at all. I really did not expect this whole thing to be so quick, simple and pain free.
That's all for now. I'll post pics when I have them.
Title: Re: I've had breasts since I was like 10. Tell me what you see.
Post by: SideSet on January 22, 2021, 01:11:32 PM
 Really happy everything is going well for you. Hit the laxatives heavy, as the anesthetic and pain killers can bind you up and that can be miserable 
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