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Title: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on May 27, 2020, 09:06:23 PM
Hello everyone, I am new here.  I have been reading / browsing through these forums, and I have learned a lot from everyone.  I wanted to ask what you think.  My breasts move around a lot while jogging or during any physical activities.  When I wear a t-shirt my nipples stand out very much.  They also get sore while exercising.  Do you think I would benefit from wearing a bra?  I don’t want to get surgery.  I measure 38 below my breasts and 42 over my nipples.  I am 34 years old, 6’ 4” and 220 lbs.  let me know what you think.  Thanks Guys!
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: gmast on May 27, 2020, 11:38:26 PM
The bouncing may cause the nipples to get tender, so a bra can help with that.  Also, with the movement the nipples can rub against shirts which can also make them tender, and a bra can help with that.  Some folks here are bothered if their nipples show through their T-Shirts.  A bra adds another (often thick) layer, so they don't show.  I don't see it as a big deal.  Some think that a bra keeps the jiggle down, and it makes them less noticeable.  However, wearing a normal bra tends to reshape them to a more female shape, and they project further, which can make them more noticeable.  The bouncing (especially during exercise) may cause the nipples to get tender, so a bra can help with that.  Also, with the movement the nipples can rub against shirts which can also make them tender.  With the measurements you've given, you are about a 42AA.  They don't make bras that size.  You could try some XXL or XXXL compression/sports bras.  Many people find them uncomfortable.  If you lost about 15 pounds, you would lose an inch or two around your chest.  That would firm them up and they wouldn't bounce near as much.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Paa_Paw on May 28, 2020, 01:45:13 AM
I prefer to refer people asking this question to a site called:  007b. 

It is a site primarily for women. Along with a lot of pictures showing the gamut of breast sizes and shapes almost all of which could be cosidered normal.  There is also iformation about bras. It should be required reading for all people regardless of gender. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: MarcoB on May 28, 2020, 02:12:49 AM
With the measurements you've given, you are about a 42AA.  They don't make bras that size.

[Edit:  Amoena does.]

I've seen ones like eBay item #303508353573 which come in up to 46AAA, but I don't have any experience with them.  [Edit: There's something very wrong with their sizing.  They seemed large, so I tried an AA, and what came was at least a B; so I ordered again, a AAA this time, and what came was at least a C, my wife's size.]


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You could try some XXL or XXXL compression/sports bras.  Many people find them uncomfortable.
I started having severe nipple fissures from the buzzing of my snug jerseys' tiny wrinkles in the wind while riding bike even before I realized that breast was growing.  That was three years ago.  I tried the NipEAZE nipple stickers, but they only worked initially, remedying the fissure problem; but after some growth, I needed more help to avoid soreness and irritation even when not riding bike.

I found that a few male marathon runners were recommending a sports bra, and I finally gave in and first got the Fruit of the Loom type 9012 cheap pull-over sports bras that are very, very plain.  Wow, what a relief, and to more than just the nipple!  My underbust is 37", and I do best with their size 40.  Still, they, like a few others I've tried, kind of bite into the lower fronts of my shoulders a bit.  I tried their 9036 with the thin straps, which was better in that respect and therefore more comfortable, but they're a little harder to hide.  (They come in packs of three; and as far as colors go, the gray seems to hide the best.  They don't have skin color.)  I also tried a few other types, including some super cheap ones from China that worked well, in size L or XL.  Some L's I've gotten were too small, and some XL's were too large, as the manufacturers don't all work to the same size standards.  Except on the bike, I mostly wear the Jockey Air Seamfree for its comfort and that I can hide it well.

These are all bralettes though, and basically smash my breast down; and although they prevent friction on the inside of my shirts and hold it in place better, I think it would be more comfortable if I could find a bra that has an actual cup, or at least gives my breast some room without being so loose everywhere else that the rest moves around.  I have a few more types coming.  Hanes has been having big discounts recently, so I have a couple coming from them this week.

The problem with ordering really cheap ones from China on eBay is that it takes so long for them to arrive, that you decide "This one's perfect [or will be in the next size up or down] so I'll get three more," and by that time the same one is not available anymore, so you have to start over.  It's a bit frustrating.  I have not gotten my nerve up to make an appointment with a lingerie shop and get fitted.  Besides the obvious, I suspect they wouldn't have anything in my size, so it would be a waste of everyone's time.

I tried posting a couple of pictures with this, but it wouldn't post.  I tried several times, even after having removed the pictures, and the "Post" button just gave a tiny window that said "Ok" but otherwise did nothing.  What's the secret?  I will not put them on my website to link to!  Now I've logged out and back in and we'll see if I can get just the text to post.

Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on May 28, 2020, 10:03:50 AM
Thank you all for your suggestions.  I've attached a few more pictures. (hopefully they will post) These pictures are more of a side profile.  I am starting to wonder if I even have gynecomastia?  Do I?  I think a sports bra might help with the soreness as well as helping to hide my pointy nipples.  Someone mentioned that losing a few pounds may help, but I have recently lost 10 lbs, and it only seems to make them stand out more.  Any additional information or suggestions are appreciated.  Thanks!
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JohannK on May 28, 2020, 12:20:48 PM
Looking at those pictures, I wouldn't call you fat.  Looks like gyne to me.  And it's common with gyne that losing weight will make them more prominent.  I can't really see such detail in those pictures, but are your nipples puffy?  Because that's a classic sign of "true" gyne (some here don't like the idea of differentiating), it happens when the glands push the nipple out.  You can also feel for them.  If you can feel the glands behind your nipples (by squeezing, not pressing in) then it's pretty much confirmed.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on May 28, 2020, 12:58:59 PM
Thank you for your comments Johannk.  Sorry about the poor picture quality, I have to reduce the file size way down in order to get them to post.  I have attached one more picture.  My nipples are puffy almost all the time.  I can definitely feel the gland behind my nipples.   There are so many different methods out there for measuring to find your bra size.  What one do you all use?  I have read how wearing a bra has helped others, so maybe I'll give it a try.  I will probably start out with an XL or XXL sports bra.  Any suggestions on brand or style of bra?
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JohannK on May 28, 2020, 01:06:36 PM
Yep, that pretty much confirms it.

As for measurement, the general advice is to use the calculator over at ABraThatFits.  It uses more measurements than the usual (loose underbust, snug underbust, tight underbust, standing bust, leaning bust and lying bust), and also considers gender (referring to actual biological gender here), to get the most accurate result.  But of course it's still not as accurate as a formal fitting.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: gmast on May 28, 2020, 02:23:52 PM
Some people have recommended using the method from ABraThatFits.  I highly recommend that you do not use that method.  It is wrong for most brands of bras for someone your size.  It would have you wearing a 38D, which is ridiculous.  The best way is to use the method that the manufacturer of the bra uses.  Most of them seem to go by using the measurement in inches under your bust, rounded up to an even number, plus four for the band size.  Then the difference between the band size and the chest measurement to come up with the cup size.  another common method is to use the measurement under your armpits for the band size.  Many of the retailers will give directions for determining the size, but they don't match the manufacturers, and then in the comments you'll find a lot of people complaining that the band is too tight or the cups run big, because they bought the wrong size because they used the wrong method.

As far a losing weight, when I dropped 15 pounds I lost two inches around my waist, two inches under the breasts, one inch around the breasts, and two inches above the breasts.  So the breasts are smaller, and seem to have a more feminine shape, but they don't stand out under my shirts, as the shirts aren't tight now.  They also don't move as much.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on May 28, 2020, 02:47:26 PM
Some people have recommended using the method from ABraThatFits.  I highly recommend that you do not use that method.  It is wrong for most brands of bras for someone your size.  It would have you wearing a 38D, which is ridiculous.  The best way is to use the method that the manufacturer of the bra uses.  Most of them seem to go by using the measurement in inches under your bust, rounded up to an even number, plus four for the band size.  Then the difference between the band size and the chest measurement to come up with the cup size.  another common method is to use the measurement under your armpits for the band size.  Many of the retailers will give directions for determining the size, but they don't match the manufacturers, and then in the comments you'll find a lot of people complaining that the band is too tight or the cups run big, because they bought the wrong size because they used the wrong method.

As far a losing weight, when I dropped 15 pounds I lost two inches around my waist, two inches under the breasts, one inch around the breasts, and two inches above the breasts.  So the breasts are smaller, and seem to have a more feminine shape, but they don't stand out under my shirts, as the shirts aren't tight now.  They also don't move as much.
Thank you gmast for these pointers.. I agree, I don’t think I am a 38D.  I’ll try the method of measuring under my arm pits for the band size, in my case that is 40, and with my bust measuring 42, that would make me a 40B or so.  I think 40B is more realistic.  Also, most sports bras have a range of sizes that they’ll fit, so I’ll try to find something within the 40B range.  I will keep working on my weight loss goals... hope it will help and not make them appear any bigger as they have been.  I’ll be buying my first bra today, my wife said she would go with me!  Will keep you posted.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Moobzie on May 28, 2020, 07:16:49 PM
Here's a site that might help:
brasforsmallcups.com
They do have 46aa and a bunch of other not-standard sizes.
It deals with what most of us have: large band sizes and cups small relative to the band size.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on May 29, 2020, 10:47:07 AM
So, just wanted to give you guys an update.  My wife and I went out and bought me some bras last night.  I also got fitted, and the method they used was measuring just under my armpits for the band size.  I measured at 40 inches. My first impressions are very good.  I like the comfort and support they give.  Still haven’t worn them all day, but so far I am impressed.  They seem to fit well, and they keep my nipples from showing through my shirts.  I got a Warner No Side Effect T-Shirt Bra, size 40B, and two other bralettes from Danskin and Chantelle size XL. They feel amazing, and I plan to give them a try.  Let me know what you think?
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: paulpark21 on June 01, 2020, 01:55:44 PM
The bras look good on you.  The top one (underwired?) looks like a good fit.  I like underwires the most, they give the best support.  The other two look good, but I'm not crazy about sports bras.  But if you are comfortable with them, then that's all that counts.

It's nice to have a wife that is comfortable with your wearing of a bra.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on June 01, 2020, 02:51:20 PM
Thank you, Paulpark21.  After wearing these for a few days I couldn’t imagine going without them.  The first one is wire free, but I do have a black underwire minimizer. (Attached Picture)  I too think that an underwire provides superior support.  I’ll definitely be buying more underwire bras! 

I don’t know what I would do without my wife being there for me, helping me through all of this.  She has been very understanding.   

Thanks also to everyone on this forum for their help and advice!
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: SideSet on June 14, 2020, 03:07:52 PM
You look great in a bra. I am not surprised you already feel much more comfortable and confident in a bra.  At a B cup, your breasts are the same size as many women’s.  You also have feminine, puffy nipples. 

Feels good to have everything nicely held in place, doesn’t it?  And a much better look without all that movement on your chest. Do you prefer the rounded, uplifted look a bra gives you?  I find it more polished and attractive. 

So nice your wife knows you need to wear a bra like her and other women. What is her bra size?

Have fun building your bra collection
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on June 14, 2020, 03:58:17 PM
Thank you, SideSet.  

Yes, it feels much better having everything held in place!  The comfort I get from wearing a bra is more important to me than appearances.  I do like how it smooths out my otherwise pointy breast shape and hides my nipples.  

My wife wears a 34A, so she can understand my situation very much.

I am slowing learning what styles and brands work best for me. 

Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: SideSet on June 14, 2020, 07:24:27 PM
Yes, you don’t want to be nipping out :)  

Wow, you have bigger boobs than your wife.  I bet she is impressed.  So glad she is supportive and not jealous about your breasts. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Gynomom on June 16, 2020, 08:50:30 PM
Justjer,

Thank you for sharing those pictures of yourself, both in a bra and braless.

Those bras look really good on you.  Clearly a much better look than when you are braless.

I also am glad to hear that you like wearing a bra and are more comfortable in a bra than going braless.

Would you be OK if I showed my son your pictures and what you said? His breasts have a completely female appearance, mammary glands behind his larger puffy feminine nipples.  Your breasts appear to have a wider root, but then again his band size would be much smaller than yours and his breasts protrude more. I am guessing a B cup, maybe 34 band, but I will need to do a bra fitting to be sure.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on June 16, 2020, 11:06:24 PM
Justjer,

Thank you for sharing those pictures of yourself, both in a bra and braless.

Those bras look really good on you.  Clearly a much better look than when you are braless.

I also am glad to hear that you like wearing a bra and are more comfortable in a bra than going braless.

Would you be OK if I showed my son your pictures and what you said? His breasts have a completely female appearance, mammary glands behind his larger puffy feminine nipples.  Your breasts appear to have a wider root, but then again his band size would be much smaller than yours and his breasts protrude more. I am guessing a B cup, maybe 34 band, but I will need to do a bra fitting to be sure.
Thank you Gynomom.  

If you think it will help your son, you’re welcome to show him.  I’ve read some of your posts, and I hope the best for you and your son.  
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: MarcoB on June 17, 2020, 12:14:11 AM
Thank you Gynomom. 

If you think it will help your son, you’re welcome to show him.  I’ve read some of your posts, and I hope the best for you and your son. 
Probably the more pictures he can see, especially of young teenagers with gyne, the better, although the young ones' pictures may be harder to come by.  I remember a slim young teenager who posted a picture of himself from his neck down, in a black bra, about a 32DD, and he filled it completely; but I can't find it again.  The shape would have been the envy of many a girl.  I suppose the initial instinct might be to get a type of bra that would just squash it all down to make it less obvious, but that comfort eventually wins out.

It will probably be encouraging to him to read other boys' stories too.  He's definitely not alone.  I wonder if it might even be helpful for him to be in personal contact with some of similar age who are going through the same thing, like Bailey K on this forum.  There was also another mother here recently who was looking for help dealing with her young son's gyne problem.  Maybe someone can remember her forum name.  It was rather moving to read her story.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on October 23, 2020, 08:11:39 PM
Manboobs57, thank you for your input.  My breasts have continued to grow since my last post, and I am now wearing a 40C bra.  I believe it has something to do with taking prednisone for treating an auto immune condition.  I have dropped a few more pounds as well, and it only makes my breasts protrude even more.  Wish I didn’t need any support, but my breasts are more comfortable when they are supported.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Dale Warnio on October 25, 2020, 02:49:14 PM
 Since you are now a C cup, you definitely will look and feel best in a bra.   You are now too big to go braless. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: blad on November 15, 2020, 01:41:40 PM
I think it is great  that guys like JustJer are open to the benefits of trying a bra and evaluating if it works for them.

I feel that any guy with breast development, particularly if they have discomfort issues, should consider trying a properly fitted bra for a reasonable length of time of a few months. Judging from the various posts, a large number of guys have been surprised at the comfort a bra provided while also improving their profile. Further, they seem to adapt to daily wearing of a bra rather quickly.

It is not a big deal to be wearing a bra as a well fitting one is comfortable, functional for support, and generally is forgotten during the day in the same way wearing socks does not cross your mind. It becomes routine. The only barrier at all is the perceived stigma of wearing one and the concern of it being seen. These can be managed and concern does just diminish with time and confidence.

When I tried my first bra it was propelled by the comments of others that I needed one, and not by my own reasoning. But I quickly realized that there was merit to the opinion that I needed a bra and have been thankful and satisfied to wear one since. As with most, getting over the concerns of the stigma and potential visibility of a bra held me back from fully embracing wearing one full time, but that did pass. I became completely at peace with having breasts and dealing with them in the practical way that half of the worlds population does by wearing a bra daily. It is no big deal.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on November 15, 2020, 04:14:49 PM
Thank you for your comments blad. 

I have been wearing bras for several months now, and find that they have many benefits.  I am still a little nervous that others will notice and I try to keep the straps from showing through the best that I can.  Still haven’t told anyone other than my wife.  Others may have noticed, but they haven’t said anything. 

I find that underwire minimizers work the best for me.  My breasts have grown to a 40C and I am now wearing a few different brands of 40C minimizers.  They help to conceal my breasts.   

Thanks to all those on this forum that have helped me get to this point.  If there are any others who think a bra will help, I hope they try one!
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: taxmapper on November 16, 2020, 09:59:29 AM

The grand irony as of late for me and with a bit of self level snarkiness, I recently purchased two bras through Amazon and they feel like sock material. REALLY soft and very comfortable. 


The other half saw them on me and went... ohhhh I like those! 


A small moment of satisfaction when she was actually a bit jealous of my choice in bras...   
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 16, 2020, 10:22:39 AM
Justjer,

How do you feel about now being a C cup? 

C cup is too big to go around braless, so it is good that you like to regularly wear a bra now. 

Also, so good that you have found a bra style that works well for you. 

 Do you go in, look at bras, and try on before purchasing?
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: boobs are normal on November 16, 2020, 10:52:18 AM
JUST TRY. What is there to lose?
The longer you put it off the greater you will probably regret the delay.
Took me me several years to try, just a few hours to be convinced
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Traveler on November 16, 2020, 01:13:00 PM
So true! I waited 40 years before I tried a bra and was hooked! Can’t imagine going out of the house without one now.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on November 16, 2020, 03:26:46 PM
Justjer,

How do you feel about now being a C cup?

....

 Do you go in, look at bras, and try on before purchasing?
I feel like my breasts are just part of who I am now. 

I do most of my bra shopping online.  I’ve only been in store shopping a few times, and when I got professionally fitted at Dillards. Online shopping allows me to find all the sales or discounted items and they make it so easy to return if it doesn’t fit properly. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 16, 2020, 04:55:28 PM
 So you have reached the point where it’s second nature to put on your bra when you get dressed? 

I bet the fitter was impressed with your breasts.  Was she?
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on November 16, 2020, 08:40:40 PM
Yes, It’s become second nature to wear a bra when I get dressed every day.

The fitter just said that we fit men all the time, but she didn’t say too much about my breasts... probably because she knew I was nervous.  She was very helpful, and informative about all the different kinds of bras. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: blad on November 16, 2020, 09:46:52 PM
When I am out and about I see a lot of guys with degrees of breast development.

It seems it is slowly becoming more common for them to consider wearing a brassiere. There will be a tipping point when it is more open.
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 16, 2020, 09:48:09 PM
 The fitter sounded nice. 

 For you, now, as you dress, it’s not an issue of if you’re going to wear a bra, but which bra you are going to wear today. 
Title: Re: What do you think? Would I benefit from wearing a bra?
Post by: JustJer on November 16, 2020, 10:48:23 PM
Yes, Dale Warino.  I don’t see myself going braless.  I need something every day.  I have quite the collection of bras now.  Probably more than my wife.  What I choose to wear depends on what I am doing that day.  I have sports bras, minimizers, t-shirt bras and casual lounge bras as well.  My go to is an underwire minimizer.
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