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Gynecomastia Acceptance => Sex => Topic started by: Johndoe1 on July 02, 2019, 11:02:06 AM

Title: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Johndoe1 on July 02, 2019, 11:02:06 AM
This is a new topic of an old out dated topic. 

Personally I have found that it depends on the woman. In my dating life I have had women who were grossed out when they found out I had sizable breasts. Others were fascinated with them. Still others had a lesbian type fetish with them and nothing else about me. It took years to find my wonderful wife who doesn't care that I have a chest.

I did recently in another group have a woman who said she was a lesbian but wanted to know all about my breasts and admitted she had always wanted to  "try" a guy with gynecomastia. I said thanks but no thanks and moved on. 
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: ilikemytits on July 02, 2019, 11:25:10 AM
This is a new topic of an old out dated topic.

Personally I have found that it depends on the woman. In my dating life I have had women who were grossed out when they found out I had sizable breasts. Others were fascinated with them. Still others had a lesbian type fetish with them and nothing else about me. It took years to find my wonderful wife who doesn't care that I have a chest.

I did recently in another group have a woman who said she was a lesbian but wanted to know all about my breasts and admitted she had always wanted to  "try" a guy with gynecomastia. I said thanks but no thanks and moved on.
Wouldn't it be great if having breasts didn't factor in any negative way.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: hammer on July 03, 2019, 03:36:24 PM
This is a new topic of an old out dated topic.

Personally I have found that it depends on the woman. In my dating life I have had women who were grossed out when they found out I had sizable breasts. Others were fascinated with them. Still others had a lesbian type fetish with them and nothing else about me. It took years to find my wonderful wife who doesn't care that I have a chest.

I did recently in another group have a woman who said she was a lesbian but wanted to know all about my breasts and admitted she had always wanted to  "try" a guy with gynecomastia. I said thanks but no thanks and moved on.
Wouldn't it be great if having breasts didn't factor in any negative way.
If you find someone who sees you for you and isnt shallow, then you have found a keeper! However, you must be the same way! You must see the woman for who she is in her heart and mind and not judge her by any physical standards!

This is just a simple way of putting it, but I think that I have made my point!
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: SideSet on July 05, 2019, 01:44:39 PM
My experience fits with the categories Johndoe said, but it overall has been skewed to the negative  
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: walt on July 10, 2019, 10:16:24 PM
Well HI , my wife likes them and she likes to play with them she says its the best of both worlds, she does not mind if I wear a sports bra and my family is kool with it my son asked me if I would take him bra shopping as he had sizable boobs due to his weight and they are giving him back problems. So anyhow its allways a plus if you spouse likes the soft wear!
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Dale Warnio on November 18, 2020, 09:11:51 AM
I think a small minority of women accept us and another small minority are curious,  but the vast majority do not find us sexually attractive.  

They generally prefer manly men,  and to be the only ones needing to wear bras.  
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: FredL on November 18, 2020, 01:09:05 PM
I don't think my boobs ever got in the way between me and women. I was realistic, I went for women who were even with me as far as looks and body flaws. Women have their own hangups, about their boob size and shape, their butt, shoulders, head size, etc. I think they saw my affliction as comforting. I'm not going to be so judgmental, like some tight body dude. I think women are more accepting than men.

I spent a summer at a fitness (fat) camp when I was 14 and they had a section for overweight girls.. I found a girlfriend by the second week*.  I remember some of these big, heavy, buxom kids scoping out the girls and commenting how this one has a big butt, or that one is ugly, or too fat, etc. And I would think - dude, look in the mirror. You'r no prize. These are the sweetest ladies you'll ever meet and you're too good for them? It was really a shame. There were probably 10 -15 out of 200 boys who got a girlfriend.


*We reunited ten years later and we've been married now for 32 years.. 
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Johndoe1 on November 18, 2020, 01:41:21 PM
That's something I too have found. Many women actually feel somewhat kindrid with those of us who maybe male but buxom. While that is certainly not the case all the time, I have noticed the stuck up b*itches were the ones who would be not so nice to me. Others who had their own body image issues were more likely to accept a guy with breasts. I think most women would be accepting if they don't feel threatened in some way.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: blad on November 18, 2020, 07:36:00 PM
The best and long lasting relationships are based on friendship, trust, mutual understanding, and all those sorts of things. Physical attraction and lust are always fleeting and unsustainable as a foundation for a long term successful relation.  
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: SideSet on January 18, 2021, 09:44:06 PM
I think they see us more as friend material whom they can even relate to about breasts and bras.  So, in my opinion, we are more like girlfriends to them than are masculine men. I believe that is reasonable and appropriate and I am comfortable with it.  
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: gmast on January 19, 2021, 03:33:46 PM
Most people can give a  yes or no if some is attractive to them, but attractiveness is an analog, often expressed on a 1 to 10.  Women are attracted to men that are equal or better than them in the looks department.  A man  less physically attractive that the woman needs to have something else to appeal to women, typically money or political power.  Of all the things that women find attractive, tall, square jaws, broad shoulders, full head of hair, I've never heard of boobs are not on the list.  It would be on the list of things lowering attractiveness.  So if a women to finds "us" attractive, she's probably not a 9 or 10.  Less physically attractive women can overlook the boobs if the guy has other traits she finds attractive.  There are of course exceptions.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Dale Warnio on January 19, 2021, 07:42:01 PM
gmast, I agree we are not the most desirable. But I do find women are more easily friends and relaxed and comfortable with me than they are with men
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: blad on January 19, 2021, 08:10:44 PM
Easier to get away with big boobs if you also have big bucks.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: p.r.1974 on January 19, 2021, 10:06:49 PM
I find that we are all different along the gender and orientation spectrum. What one finds attractive, may be indifferent or unattractive to another. For me, physical features take a back seat to the connection I have with my interest that may become more. If I were to stick only with "my type", I may end up missing out on a great life partner. Yes there needs to be an attraction.

So, to answer the op, yes. And without the impossible beauty standards for men and women by society.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Dudewithboobs on January 22, 2021, 03:31:59 PM
I think as the age old saying goes is women are attracted to confidence. I don’t think women see a man whether he has boobs or not and may initially make a decision at a bar or whatever but if in a group of friends and both remain single over time if the guy is all woe is me I have boobs whine whine whine I’m sure a woman will never even fathom the idea of being with him. But if he is jovial and Owns up to it and takes care of himself a or d cup I doubt she will overall care. And will eventually find attraction to him if not his breasts. Not always going to be the case but I’d bet on confidence wins in the end. If you’re over the age of 30 I doubt it matters a ton. Now if you are frilly and feminine and wanting to wear low cut tops then definitely probably won’t be. But if you’re just a guy with large breasts even if large enough to surely be defined by any as female like breasts. And takes care of his health I.e isn’t fast food and lazy and can provide and a man of good character than I highly doubt they are once knowing you are going to care even if in shape have breasts or reasonably need a bra. I say reasonably because unless you’re like a c cup I doubt many women are going to assume and understand why you want or neeed and have bras. And if you are overweight losing weight will make more sense to a woman than continuing your diet and wearing a bra more than a treadmill 
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: aboywithgirls on January 23, 2021, 11:35:42 AM
My wife's response to this is: "Who doesn't like boobs?" Not all women feel this way but mine does. There are a few reasons for this. She has always known that I have worn a bra as well as panties. She has helped me finding clothing that fits and flatters my figure rather than try to wear ill fitting clothing.

My breasts are as much involved in intimacy as her are. She loves to slip my bra straps down so she can.access my girls. 
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: 42CSuprise! on January 23, 2021, 11:59:28 AM
I've never had a problem attracting women who find me attractive.  In fact, four of them married me along the way.  Of course, those courtships happened when my breast development was minimal.  I never have had a hard masculine body, but that didn't seem to make a difference.  More recently my breasts have grown and my body has filled out a bit around the middle.  I attribute that to rising estrogen and diminishing testosterone that comes with advancing years.

Interestingly, a good friend, a woman around my age who has a bosom I can't compete with and with whom I've shared my brassiere journey said a couple of days ago when I said I doubted anyone would be interested in my body as it is today... said au contraire...  I know she was speaking about herself.  NO I don't fit the model of virility we've been told is the gold standard, but why should I let Madison Avenue define my sense of self?  Yes, if I'm fixated on dating Miss America it would be easy to believe she wouldn't be interested... but why would we do THAT to ourselves? 

Sustaining an intimate relationship is challenging in every circumstance.  How our bodies and personalities change with aging will need to be accommodated in our intimate relationship.  Each couple finds their own way.  Some relationships won't survive... I'm the poster child for that with four marriages followed by four divorces.  But that had nothing to do with my chest development.  Relax and enjoy the ride.  If we're lucky we find a partner who will celebrate exactly who we are, breasts and all.  In the meantime we can simply enjoy our own bodies as they are.

Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Dale Warnio on January 23, 2021, 04:01:29 PM
42CSurprise!  That is so interesting about your friend with a bosom you can't match.  I am glad she has supported you as you talked about your growing breasts.  You really think she wants more?  Going to go for it?
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: 42CSuprise! on January 23, 2021, 08:04:51 PM
No... I'm not relationship material... apart from being a good friend.  Four marriages taught me something.  So I'll have a few friends, one of whom is a former wife.  So long as Covid is on the scene, she is the only person with whom I have face to face contact.  I'll keep it that way for the time being.  And shame on you for being a provocateur... as we've learned from your comments on the different threads... :o
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Dale Warnio on January 23, 2021, 10:10:01 PM
Smart, 42CSurprise!

And 😄 

Agent Provocateur 
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: jack malone on February 03, 2021, 09:02:45 AM
I do not know about women in general but I do know my wife likes mine. A lot.
That is a good thing.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: Charlee on February 03, 2021, 11:23:55 AM
I do not know about women in general but I do know my wife likes mine. A lot.
That is a good thing.
Yes, that is a good thing. More happiness to you. My wife still frowns when I go out in public.
Title: Re: Do girls find "us" attractive -part 2
Post by: taxmapper on February 03, 2021, 12:26:58 PM
Mine hates them. 
Has become a major turn off and makes that quite clear. 
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