Author Topic: If you wear a bra, how does your wife feel about it?  (Read 609 times)

Offline felix

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Having followed conversations on this forum for several years, I have noticed, as somebody pointed out in another thread, how our wives feel about us wearing feminine apparel seems to be all over the road.  Some are completely OK with it to the point that we wear each others' bras and go shopping together.  Others are so strongly opposed to it that we have to do it in secret or are simply forbidden to wear bras, even in cases where one of us desperately needs to. 

My wife is actually the person who pointed out that I was starting to look like a B cup (closer to C these days) and bought me my first sports bra.  I think she has mixed emotions about it, but she understands that I need it for comfort and doesn't give me grief over it.  She is completely aware that I wear bras and knows exactly what is in my underwear drawer.  She doesn't even seem to mind that I own more bras that she does.

If you wear a bra or want to, is your wife aware of it or do you have to do it in secret?  If she knows about it, does she understand and support you or does she pitch a fit or somewhere in between?  I have seen comments from one extreme to the other.  Where are you?

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Offline blad

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My wife is supportive of me wearing bras. I put them in the laundry bin and they end up in my bra drawer ready to go.

Many years ago she mentioned that I needed a bra, but I already new that.
If the bra fits, wear it.

Offline curiousk

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Felix, like your wife, my wife has mixed emotions as well.  When I brought up the idea of wearing a bra, she just said ok, whatever makes you feel comfortable.  I'm sure that she wouldn't have a husband not wearing a bra, but she's dealing with it.  I have my bras in my dresser drawer and I don't hid them from her.  I have more bras that she does, which she isn't happy about it.  

We are not the same size so we can't wear each others bras.   My wife hates the idea of bra shopping so I don't think there will be a time we'll do that.  

Fortunately, she is supportive of me wearing a bra. My breasts are definitely big enough to use the support of wearing a bra.  She asked if I wanted surgery.  I told her no because of the expensive, the surgery risk, but more importantly, I like them.  I've had them since I was 11 years old and all I've decided to do was support them.   

Offline paulpark21

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As far as I can surmise, my wife is okay with me wearing.  She has never said anything detrimental about my wearing, but nothing positive either.  She washes mine and dries them as I requested (no drier). She sees me when I am dressing,  wearing just a bra on top and makes no comments.  

Offline Aussie63

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Disclaimer: I don't actually need to wear a bra. I have A-Cup pseudo gyno but face the prospect of real gyno due to a medical condition (which is what brought me here) and coincidentally I have been wearing bras for fun for years. Hey, it's a weekend thing!

My wife has been totally cool with it, even if I have my suspicions that she doesn't completely understand. If and when I do actually need to wear a bra for support and comfort, I don't expect any problems simply due to the fact that she is used to it.



Offline Dudewithboobs

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My wife is very accepting and processed things very rationally more than most for sure. And rarely ever has an emotional bias and tries always to understand and empathize even when it goes against her faith and personal grain of things. She’s also very traditional and conservative and her family is beyond traditional and conservative in thinking and ways. With other factors in play like a toddler daughter and her having a business in the community working with 100+ family’s it is just something I’m not comfortable asking my wife to be okay with. Cause that would come with how are we going to explain to her family’s she teaches or her actual family that her husband is wearing bras for his breasts so if you see him and see it yes that’s what it is. And then the why does he have breasts. He didn’t last time we seen him. Well no he did and has he just doesn’t parade them around nor is he going to he just has grown a bit there and needs support and I’m asking you to support him and not see it as anything different. Etc etc etc. I just don’t see that ever happening. Around the home, maybe. Sports bras only, maybe. T shirt bras and underwires ehhhh idk. I think my boobs would need to be hanging a bit and sticking out a bit or easily a c cup or so before I could event assume to justify my bra collection being a topic of conversation that could be presented and accepted. And even if they did grow more it’s then a suspicion more than a sumpathy l sure to most women as to why their man now has evident breasts idk. I envy the heck out of those here who have their wife’s on board and are comfortable bringing it to their attn 

Offline Traveler

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While not enthusiastic over my breast development, she has come to accept the fact I need to wear a bra and will shop on line for bras and tops with me. She has no problem handling them when we do the wash either. She is well aware of my growth and while I’m now a DD she is still far more “gifted” in the bust, so I think that helps.

Offline zztzz

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She's totally cool with it and even finds it attractive. But we'd like to keep it private. I'm a 40b. I have a few underwires and sports bras. They do have quite a bit of movement to them, and they are pretty obvious in appearance while in most shirts. I do my best to embrace it and yet hide it from the general judgmental public.   

Offline taxmapper

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Mine has actually shared links of soem bras to look at online. 

Were also Pinterest digital hoarders!!!   

so I sent a copy of a leather corset (breast armour) and was told.. 

"oh you'll look great in that!!" 

Though joking, I wondered.. 

Offline Traveler

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While not enthusiastic over my breast development, she has come to accept the fact I need to wear a bra and will shop on line for bras and tops with me. She has no problem handling them when we do the wash either. She is well aware of my growth and while I’m now a DD she is still far more “gifted” in the bust, so I think that helps.
Looks like I need to change my answer a bit. We were out running errands and needed to stop at Lane Bryant’s for an exchange for her. Bras were on sale and she picked out two pretty racey ones (in my mind) for me!!! Holy crap!!! One of them she told me I can’t wear out of the house and I’m good with that. Having this kind of support is invaluable.

Offline curiousk

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You are a lucky man.  I can’t see my wife doing that for me.  


 

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