Author Topic: My chest, feedback please  (Read 1297 times)

Offline Dudewithboobs

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Lmao agreed and funny. I believe there are people here who have an immense fascination and honesty fetishize the idea of male breasts. I’ve seen the same people tell guys who post here who clearly have zero showing of breast growth or have no indication of anything that is remotely feminine and be told they have breasts and should get a bra and could benefit from a professional fitting. 

There was a post by someone under the name gendernormssuck the other day and the thread got locked cause quite honestly he was calling it exactly how it is and has become here. 

I’ve seen users here on Reddit on Quora and other forums who post dressing up as women and chiming in on topics of cross dressing and being trans and so forth and good for them serious applause. Be you and be proud. And it makes ya realize why those are the same people here telling any and every guy on earth to get a bra fitting. To tell men who are flat as a board they have female breasts. Who men who have zero growth and areolas are dimes and show no similarity to a breast at all that they have very feminine breasts. 

Sorry for the rant. This forum just gets ridiculous with the majority of users here now days going you need a bra and being told they have t^^ts 



Offline p.r.1974

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Not all women have large "feminine" breasts. They come in all shapes and sizes. Your opinion of what breasts "should" or "do" look like has been heavily influenced by media, porn, or social pressure from somewhere. I understand that you hated yours so much that you chopped them off. and are bitter and confrontational in most of the posts I have read of yours. I do not have polite words for bullies, or for those that are still pissed off at the actions of the bullies in their life, and choose to spread that. Acceptance and being helpful requires an open mind to those who fit outside of the mainstream. If you cannot do this, stop posting on acceptance threads, or those that may become them.

Yes, many of us have a little to a lot of extra weight, But he didn't ask what you are implying. He (the op) asked for and received our opinions on his chest shape. Our assessments are not coming from a place of torment. If mine have been received that way, please let me know.
« Last Edit: July 10, 2021, 03:26:13 PM by p.r.1974 »

Offline gmast

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I agree.  There are a few posters here that pretend they are here for support guys with gyno, but if you look at what they post, it is obvious they have transgender agenda.  Why else would they encourage guys to wear bras, panties, camisoles, tankinis, women's blouses, and such.  If anyone posts a picture of a guy wearing a bra, the accolade that they look great come rolling in, even though the picture is taken from waist height and cropped small, and hard to tell if the bra even has a proper fit.  Even if it fits well, they don't look good, they look like a guy wearing a bra.  Their are lots of comments about boobs being female in appearance, even though most aren't.  Men''s breast are typically wider, shallower, have nipples in a different postion, and does not have a round outline.  They do not look feminine. 

Offline Dudewithboobs

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P r I have no clue what you’re talking about if replyin to me. I clearly stated breasts come in all shapes sizes and aesthetics and my idea of breasts have been influenced zero by media sex porn etc. I’ve seen a lot of breasts in my time and none looked the same as the next I’m very aware not all women’s breasts are perky self supporting large shimmery areolas with eraser nipples. That’s a facade that some surely have but commonly don’t.
I also haven’t “chopped mine off” I stated a few days ago how I felt I had grown more so unsure where you get that….I also haven’t been bullied or been a bully. An honest perspective is not an ill intended attack such as bullying. I am not crazy active but I am fairly active I believe to be and rarely do I have harsh words to give out unless it’s when calling a spade a spade.
Acceptance does require all that you said it does. But it does not require forcing or injecting a singular opinion as if it’s fact. Suggesting a bra and telling people to be in a bra or go buy a bra or get fitted for a bra is very different. Not asking questions to understand the overall thought or context and instead dashing in to bras is not really assisting it’s insisting. Assisting and insisting also very different. The poster asked how it looks and he’s accepting it etc did not ask initially how do I look and what’s your tips on trying bras out.
I don’t think your comments are coming from a place of torment but I do think you failed miserably in assessing and understanding what I was saying and made clearly inaccurate statements in your reply about me. But hey that’s America we always would rather assume to create our own opinion than assess and understand the fact.

And Gmast, I agree 100%

Offline blad

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If one comes here and reads the various posts in the acceptance area, and then posts in the acceptance area, then almost by definition they must be thinking that a bra is a possibility. Or else they should have posted in the surgical area only.

I am not going into the surgical posts and crying stop, try a bra first before you go any further.

So no big surprise that the discussions in the acceptance area focus more on the use of a bra for support and shaping. Don't post here if you are an anti bra or had them removed. Pick the forums dedicated to those discussing surgery for your strong opinions and we will stick to support options in the acceptance area.

Sounds logical?

Not trying to hurt anyones feelings or be confrontational, I just don't think we need to keep going over this when really its an issue of posting your thoughts in the wrong place.
« Last Edit: July 09, 2021, 07:28:06 PM by blad »
If the bra fits, wear it.

Offline Dudewithboobs

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Sounds very logical. And think it’s a great point to make. Thank you for noting it like that. But I’d say so does hey I have had breasts for quite some time. I’ve come to accept them and am curious how they actually look to others who don’t know me or haven’t seen me and curious if they look like I may see them.
Many guys cover them up with larger clothes or shrugging shoulders etc etc and maybe a poster is in the acceptance forum for general acceptance and general community of those who have also accepted theirs. Acceptance doesn’t mean wearing a bra it just means I am no longer going to let this bother me like it has plagued me previously. I accept it. I’m ok with it. I’m good. When I joined here 4 years ago damn near every dude wore a bra. Know what else they did? They asked probing questions to get to know someone new posting or asked questions to direct their answers specifically to their interest or concern or intent. They didn’t just go oh hey they got nipples yup you got breasts you need a bra you’d benefit from a bra you should get a bra you got female breasts.

Offline p.r.1974

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Apologies for not calling out FredL in the previous post.

Offline FredL

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..... I understand that you hated yours so much that you chopped them off. ...
In the interest of accuracy:

"chopped them off" is misleading. If that's what the surgery entailed, I would never have considered it. We don't want to mislead new forum members. I was left with no visible scars, and that would not be the case if my breasts were chopped off. 

Developed breasts at puberty and had corrective surgery at age 57.

Offline p.r.1974

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..... I understand that you hated yours so much that you chopped them off. ...
In the interest of accuracy:

"chopped them off" is misleading. If that's what the surgery entailed, I would never have considered it. We don't want to mislead new forum members. I was left with no visible scars, and that would not be the case if my breasts were chopped off.
So, you believe that people reading the thread cannot read your signature or previous posts, and determine that you had them surgically removed. You chose not to post or respond to the entirety of the post. 

"Not all women have large "feminine" breasts. They come in all shapes and sizes. Your opinion of what breasts "should" or "do" look like has been heavily influenced by media, porn, or social pressure from somewhere. I understand that you hated yours so much that you chopped them off. and are bitter and confrontational in most of the posts I have read of yours. I do not have polite words for bullies, or for those that are still pissed off at the actions of the bullies in their life, and choose to spread that. Acceptance and being helpful requires an open mind to those who fit outside of the mainstream. If you cannot do this, stop posting on acceptance threads, or those that may become them.

Yes, many of us have a little to a lot of extra weight, But he didn't ask what you are implying. He (the op) asked for and received our opinions on his chest shape. Our assessments are not coming from a place of torment. If mine have been received that way, please let me know. "




Offline FredL

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..... I understand that you hated yours so much that you chopped them off. ...
In the interest of accuracy:

"chopped them off" is misleading. If that's what the surgery entailed, I would never have considered it. We don't want to mislead new forum members. I was left with no visible scars, and that would not be the case if my breasts were chopped off.
So, you believe that people reading the thread cannot read your signature or previous posts, and determine that you had them surgically removed. You chose not to post or respond to the entirety of the post.
... If you cannot do this, stop posting on acceptance threads, or those that may become them.



Why are you choosing to bully me? I have never posted anything disparaging to anyone. I have shown nothing but respect. You are not the person in charge of judging what I say and deciding where I can post. Leave that to the moderators.

Anyone concerned with the drama you are creating can search my posts. If I have said anything disparaging or insulting, I will explain myself or apologize.

If you read my posts, then you know that my journey is not over. I still have breast and I am now in a position where I have to either get a revision or accept what I have. I still feel uncomfortable and still wear an undergarment when I go out in public.  So in that regard, I have every right to participate in discussions and express my thoughts in this forum. Mine are as valid as yours.

Offline blad

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At a certain point I think some threads get hopelessly off on some tangent and stir up negativity.

This maybe multifactorial; a spread of different view points, not reading the intent of a post correctly, posts that are not clearly written and are easy to misinterpret, a build up of emotion, and unclear intent. These things plague world conversations in general when different points of view collide. 

Posts are not like a dynamic conversation where tone and inflection are part of the mix.

No one usually feels they have the satisfaction that the other side gets their point and it goes back and forth until it just dies out from frustration. Then it shows up again in some other thread.

Offline SideSet

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I agree with blad and curiousk

Offline FredL

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Chucky, when you quote a post, you're supposed to type below the quote, not inside of it. 

Offline expedient-traveller

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Try the bra, you will feel much better once you have support. I put off getting a bra for some time even though I needed one. That was years ago and I do not regret it for a minute. They are shaped, supported, do not bounce...much and look a lot better. As a side plus...they are easier to disguise if you need to. Wearing a bra places the "assets" directly behind my pockets on my shirts and the pockets break up the outline from the front. However, nothing will break up the outline from the side but since most of us gentlemen are rather blind at noticing anything out of the perceived ordinary, they will not be noticed. I only mention this as some folks have a hard time dealing with men having "assets". Be well!


 

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