My Breasts

[aboywithgirls]

I used to feel like my breasts were a "fault" as well. I view them as an asset now. There are many of us here that feel the same. It sometimes takes a little while to grow into them I guess.

[blad]

In my early teen years I definitely felt like growing breasts was a significant fault and I had a constant reminder by others in school that I was not an average physique. 

Some how wearing bras helped to feel better.

[aboywithgirls]

Blad, I felt very similar. I also once felt that growing breasts was a fault. I know that I am an exception and not a rule being 16 and wearing a bra to school. 

I first thought about my breasts as a fault. The truth is that it is not a fault. Our bodies are just doing what they are told to do. I wasn't necessarily proud to.wear a bra because of the ridicule I received. However I I felt better, physically because it held the girls in place which felt good. it also prepared me of what to expect as an adult. 

[curiousk]

Honestly, I would have benefitted from wearing a bra probably at age 11 or 12.  As you know, that was not an acceptable option for a boy that age in the early 80's.   While it would have been embarrassing, I would have been more comfortable.  Some of the girls in my classes at that age would tell me that I should wear a bra.  Believe me, they were big enough for one.  Just happy with my decision to wear one now.

[Johndoe1]

blad, I know exactly what you are talking about. I hated my chest and wanted nothing more than to have a "regular" chest. The taunting really made me question my sexuality that lingered well into my adult years. I was so afraid of being called out it effected places I went and activities I participated in. Life really sucked. I wish I had just admitted what I had and dealt with it. Since I have I am enjoying life again. I just dress my chest for my activity and go do it like anyone else.

[aboywithgirls]

Honestly, I would have benefitted from wearing a bra probably at age 11 or 12.  As you know, that was not an acceptable option for a boy that age in the early 80's.  While it would have been embarrassing, I would have been more comfortable.  Some of the girls in my classes at that age would tell me that I should wear a bra.  Believe me, they were big enough for one.  Just happy with my decision to wear one now.

Actually, I had my first bra talk with my mother when I was12. She gave me a stack of hand me downbras frommy olderr sister. She had me try them on and said I could wear them around the house if it helped me. I did this for a few years butwhen I turned 16, I had gotten large enough that she had a second bra talk with me and said that I really needed to start wearing a bra full time. I told her thatn would but, I wanted my ownn bras. I was fitted at JCPENNEY that same day and I was a 34C.

[42CSuprise!]

This conversation is like a walk down memory lane... or should I say mammary lane.  Couldn't resist.  My breast development was minimal though it was enough that I felt shame about it.  It affected all kinds of choices I made because I didn't want to expose my chest.  When I did, I felt embarrassment even if no one said anything.  There were still stares but it was more my mind that knew I was different just from looking at my friends with flat chests.  I've spoken about this before.  What greatly complicated the presence of small breasts on my chest when I was an adolescent was the fact I started putting on women's lingerie including brassieres when I was 12 years old.  I didn't understand what that was about until decades later when I encountered memories of sexual abuse when I was a young boy.  From age 12 to 15 I broke into homes to steal lingerie.  You can imagine the confusion about all of that as I got older.  I won't go into that story but I will say that finding this website and giving myself permission to put on a brassiere has been part of my healing around that trauma.  And that is one of the reasons I keep saying that wearing a brassiere for me is not simply to deal with back problems or sensitive nipples.  It has a sexual element to it and I'm learning to accept the whole dynamic... me having breasts that benefit from wearing a brassiere; putting on a brassiere and feeling aroused; talking about crossdressing here and elsewhere.  I have this particular hormone stew that led to this body and life experience of sexual trauma that complicated the whole journey... gender confusion and sexual orientation confusion.  I've landed at a place where I know I'm heteorsexual and not on my way to transitioning to become a woman.  I'm simply a man with breasts who lives alone and sometimes puts on a brassiere while enjoying those breasts.  Go figure... so many ways to live a life and this is one of them.

[curiousk]

Honestly, I would have benefitted from wearing a bra probably at age 11 or 12.  As you know, that was not an acceptable option for a boy that age in the early 80's.  While it would have been embarrassing, I would have been more comfortable.  Some of the girls in my classes at that age would tell me that I should wear a bra.  Believe me, they were big enough for one.  Just happy with my decision to wear one now.

Actually, I had my first bra talk with my mother when I was12. She gave me a stack of hand me downbras frommy olderr sister. She had me try them on and said I could wear them around the house if it helped me. I did this for a few years butwhen I turned 16, I had gotten large enough that she had a second bra talk with me and said that I really needed to start wearing a bra full time. I told her thatn would but, I wanted my ownn bras. I was fitted at JCPENNEY that same day and I was a 34C.

If my mom did that, gave me hand me down bras from older sisters to try on, I would have tried them to see if they fit and helped the bouncing.  I think it would have felt like the right thing for me to do.  Unfortunately, there was never a discussion between myself and the females in my family about the breast development I had.  If my mom suggested a bra for me, I probably would have worn one.  While embarrassing, it would have controlled the movement, helped my appearance and possibly give me some confidence.  I already had some, not a lot, of  the boys and girls in my classes saying I needed to wear a bra.  I sure could have used one as early as 11 years old.

[blad]

As I have stated in other posts before, I could have benefited from a bra talk from my mom. She was well aware of my breast development, having taken me to specialists to be assessed. I think we were both a bit too embarrassed to open a discussion; sort of don't ask and don't tell. 

Openly wearing a bra to school would have been a dramatic paradigm shift, but on the other hand I was constantly told every day in school I needed a bra so it was not like it was a secret. My breasts were often on full display on the skins teem during physical education. 

When I began trying bras in private, I found a strange acceptance and even enjoyed how my breasts looked in a bra. I was mentally ready to wear a bra full time as a teen ager if society was ready as well. Strange how the bra turned a negative into a positive, if only I could have taken full advantage of that right from my teen years.

[Aussie63]

Openly wearing a bra to school would have been a dramatic paradigm shift, but on the other hand I was constantly told every day in school I needed a bra so it was not like it was a secret. My breasts were often on full display on the skins teem during physical education.

From what I've read elsewhere on the forum I don't think you are the only one to have been forcibly forced to flaunt yourself on the skins team. It was never a problem for me, I was a normal teenager I guess, but I just wonder - and this applies to anyone - if you were on the skins team but still wore a bra, would the teasing and bullying have been worse?

[Johndoe1]

if you were on the skins team but still wore a bra, would the teasing and bullying have been worse?

Oh. Hell. Yes.

[Traveler]

^^^^^^^
I double that above, it was bad enough to be forced on the skins team by a sadistic male coach. A female gym teacher probably wouldn’t have, but back then it was only males for the boy’s and females for the girls.

[curiousk]

I was very lucky that my gym teacher, also my wrestling coach and a great mentor, never put me in those embarrassing situations.  If we were standing in line for shirts and skins, you could see him counting to make sure that I was always a shirt and never a skin.  He never talked about it, but he never put me in that position.  I'm thankful for that.  Honestly, being a shirt with bouncing boobs was hard enough.  I'm glad that I wear bras everyday and I'm way more comfortable that way.

[blad]

Openly wearing a bra to school would have been a dramatic paradigm shift, but on the other hand I was constantly told every day in school I needed a bra so it was not like it was a secret. My breasts were often on full display on the skins teem during physical education.

From what I've read elsewhere on the forum I don't think you are the only one to have been forcibly forced to flaunt yourself on the skins team. It was never a problem for me, I was a normal teenager I guess, but I just wonder - and this applies to anyone - if you were on the skins team but still wore a bra, would the teasing and bullying have been worse?

Most likely any consideration of wearing a bra to school would have required some sort of exemption from gym classes. Besides being on a skins teem with a bra on, simply changing into gym cloths in a bra would not likely work well. (Even though the entire class was accustom to seeing my bare breasts every time I changed or was on the skins teem). A bra would likely be visible through the required gym shirt in our classes as well. 

With irony, I remember being on the skins teem in a mixed gym event, where the few girls who were also on the "skins" teem were obviously keeping there gym shirt on. And yes, I was yet again called out for needing a bra.

In some ways, wearing a bra to school under the right cloths would feel more safe than exposing breasts in gym. It may not even be obvious right away if one was wearing a bra given that everyone already was aware of my breasts. 

No easy solution; even if you accept your breasts and the comfort of wearing a bra, it is not easy to fit in particularly as a teen.

[Dale Warnio]

I agree with blad. There were times I really wanted to wear a bra to school. Part of me thought they  already know I have breasts, have repeatedly said I need to wear a bra, so what would be the big deal of them knowing I now wear a bra? Same with PE,  they all have seen me be bare breasted in the showers and on the skins team, so what’s the big deal of them seeing me in a bra? 

 But, I also knew that wearing a bra would make the teasing even worse. Instead of being satisfied that they were right that I needed to wear a bra and pleased that I had listen to them and come to agree with them buy regular wearing a bra,  I knew I would get more torture in scorn. 

 Very interesting double standard that blad had to go topless  while his female skins teammates did not.  Did those girls say anything? Did you notice them paying particular attention to your naked breasts are talking to each other about them?