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Title: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 02, 2006, 11:22:45 AM
Hello everybody,

I've had this since I was a Sophomore in HS, so its been about 2- 3 years, but feels like my whole life. Throughout this time I have hid it very well, but I am a Senior now and have  senior vacation to mexico in 3 weeks...all my friends are going, girls, pretty much everybody in my grade I have worked so hard to hide this from. I went to my doctor, and he didnt help me much and didnt seem like it was a big deal. I think about this vacation almost every second of the day...as I write this I am ditching a senior excursion to a water park. What the darn am I going to do?

My parents wont help me, supplements wont, my doctors wont...I have a girl lined up that I am scared will find out, I have to spend a week in mexico showcasing my biggest fear...I have no idea if this will go away after puberty. I am all alone. I have nobody. I live with this fear everyday.

Is there anything I can do? Like put super glue on the nipples tos hrink them or anything? The past two years I've taped them over tow ear t-shirts but cant do that in mexico...I am so scared I hate life and myself when these are the best years of my life.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: SC GameCOCKS on June 02, 2006, 12:13:31 PM
Unfortunatly there isnt a quick fix  :'( However, I have read on here a looooong time ago that a few members experimented with liquid band aid and one member actualy said it would work for about an hr at a time. This is for just puffy nipples, Im assuming the LB keeps the nipples in the hard state like pinching or coldness causes. Other than that, I do not know of anyway to go shirtless and keep them in the small state.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: aloe on June 02, 2006, 03:22:57 PM
I know exactly how you feel and have been through exactly the same thing, only in Hawaii, not Mexico.  Well, when you are in the water they will probably shrink up, and otherwise you can throw a shirt on.  Not much help, I know.  But one other thing is you could remember that you are far far far more worried about it than anyone else is.  Other people are more worried about themselves than they are about you.  Yeah, you might get some teasing, but you can laugh about it and just acknowledge that that's the way you are, it's a condition to be corrected someday.  It is not shameful to have the condition.  It is shameful to make someone feel bad because they do have it.  I know this isn't much help, but at least you know there are an awful lot of other people out here going through the same thing as you.  You aren't alone.

Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: tittyman111 on June 02, 2006, 03:35:03 PM
if u have puffy nips i used menthol based aloe gel sunburn stuff and put them on my nips. when the breeze hits them they get nice and tight. just keep puttin some there while ur shirt is off. i did the same thing in mexico. if it is more fat then puffy nipples...work out really hard and diet real good.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 02, 2006, 04:02:20 PM
The past 2 years Ive had it Ive got by on the hope it would be gone or going away after puberty, but Im not sure about that.

I guess its mild, and I'm going to try to keep the nips tight somehow, but I also got a little bit of fat. I'm going to try to do some sit ups and whatever.

I am just so depressed...I cant talk to my parents. I told them once in Mexico and 2 hours later my mom told me to take my shirt off in front of everybody for sunblock. I try to notice other people and can't...I'll try to post some pictures and get some non bs opinion on how It is. I have no problem jumping in the pool and getting out...just walking around topless, surfing, wearing 1 shirt...(I usually wear around 3 t-shirts)

darn this
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: aloe on June 02, 2006, 09:01:35 PM
Hey rob900 - where do you get off being so judgemental and condemning?  Who asked you?  Do you lash out at yourself as much as you lash out at others?  Why don't you find something more constructive to do than kick someone who's already down!  
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: SC GameCOCKS on June 03, 2006, 06:48:58 AM
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this is so pitiful. You could decide to be a man and get some backbone and participate. Are you the only one who has had this problem?

What have we done to our children to make them into self pitying, self centered wretches? Our young men have grown up to be sensitive little blushing violets.


Id knock ur f'n lights out if you said that in person to someone struggling with this awful condition. Grow up or get outta here
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: carguy on June 03, 2006, 01:08:34 PM
I would go. I know its hard with gyne but living with regrets is worse. I totally messed up with girls, sports, and school in general. I have so many regrets. dont be like me.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: Worrier on June 03, 2006, 01:52:50 PM
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this is so pitiful. You could decide to be a man and get some backbone and participate. Are you the only one who has had this problem?

What have we done to our children to make them into self pitying, self centered wretches? Our young men have grown up to be sensitive little blushing violets.


Rob ... what is the chuffing point of writing that? I seriously doubt it was to help him? If you want to talk about 'new men' fair enough stick it in the lounge area. I don't like guys who wax and use moisturiser too ;D

But mr gangsta doesn't fall into that catergory. I seriously bet for years men have felt like him. There are older guys on the site who felt like this .So I don't understand why you decided to say that?  


Gangsta. All I can say is this, I have a puffy nip I go swimming in a public pool every week. Sure it bugs me but guess what I do, I look at other people. And to be honest I see all shapes and sizes. I don't see many Brad pitts in there, I see a number of whales though ;Also if anyone does say anything , try not to let them think it bothers you , if you do this it will become old news and they may well spot a whale like splitarse to say stuff to instead. Seriously I hope you enjoy yourself.  I'd love to see mexico.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 03, 2006, 03:26:35 PM
Thanks for all the comments.

And for what Rob said earlier, sure I'm very sensative about this subject and act like a girl, but maybe I should just sack it up. Sometimes I tell myself to just go and have fun and not worry, but when the time comes I get nervous and make excuses, the whole thing. I was at a pool party today and saw guys with different chests and all, and figure if I can go out there and not be shy about it I'll be ok.

The main thing is the whole hanging out part of it. I can handle swimming without the shirt, but just out of the pool, hanging out with girls and friends, that part will be very hard for me...and if I put a shirt back on too quick it would be suspicious. I basically cannot win any way I look at it.

This trip has been the first and last thing I think about in a day, and it is in exactly 19 days...I have no choice...I'm rambling on, but thanks for all the help and advice. It's a great feeling to know that I'm not compelteley alone with this, even though it seems like it every day of my life.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: tittyman111 on June 03, 2006, 03:44:18 PM
dude-put a shirt on when u get out of the pool...just say that you sunburn really easily...
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: Danosaur on June 03, 2006, 04:28:12 PM
Its not suspicious at all if you put your shirt on after you get out...

You get out, go to your chair, dry off, shirt up.  I know the heat makes things 10 times worse.

I have a bad chest and im not a fat guy either, im sure people know, but I just never take off my shirt.

Really, if you dont let people think that it bothers you, no one will care, unless your chest is really really big, puffies are common.

I was at a pool party (didnt go swimming) and I saw some kid with puffies and he people didnt even notice.

Its hard to tell your situation with out pictures, but im sure you will be ok if you dont let others know it bothers you.


...I know of some kid that has it real bad, and hes on the swim team.  Some people tease but he doesnt care at all...
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: gyne8to18 on June 03, 2006, 06:53:02 PM
 I can totally relate. I just finished my senior year in high school. I was so depressed about still having gyne that I completely shut down socially. I simply went to school, earned my credits, and got out of there. So many ppl wondered why I was so reclusive and I guess they still do. :-/
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: jc71 on June 04, 2006, 07:47:13 AM
I graduated in 1990 and would wear jackets and wind breakers to school every day.

I actually do keep in touch with my 3 best friends from high school.

Do your friends joke with you about your gyne? Kids your age will typically pound away if they know you have an insecurity.  

If they do, then they already know you have gyne, so there's nothing to hide.

If they don't, then they don't consider it a problem and it's not as bad in their eyes as it is to you, so you have to change your own thinking.

Either way, go for it.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: jc71 on June 04, 2006, 07:51:27 AM
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this is so pitiful. You could decide to be a man and get some backbone and participate. Are you the only one who has had this problem?

What have we done to our children to make them into self pitying, self centered wretches? Our young men have grown up to be sensitive little blushing violets.


Rob: I sense you're very poetic. How about writing us a poem about your fellings towards the struggles that men with gyne face.  
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 04, 2006, 03:07:57 PM
Actually, nobody knows about it or suspects anything...I have done a great job of hiding it and making excuses the past few years, but I guess it will be all for nothing in less then 3 weeks.  :(

If I get some pics up I need non-bs, straight up what you guys think of it. That would help me out a lot if I knew where my particular situation stood.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: SC GameCOCKS on June 04, 2006, 03:12:02 PM
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Actually, nobody knows about it or suspects anything...I have done a great job of hiding it and making excuses the past few years, but I guess it will be all for nothing in less then 3 weeks.  :(

If I get some pics up I need non-bs, straight up what you guys think of it. That would help me out a lot if I knew where my particular situation stood.



no BS here...post some
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: aux513s on June 04, 2006, 04:10:31 PM
Why can't you just not go on the trip?
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 04, 2006, 04:14:07 PM
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Taken with a terrible quality camera phone and it makes it look not bad at all. I tried out the liquid bandage and HIGHLY reccomend it...it works very well and is water proof. The brush kind works better then the spray kind, so this is some good news for thr trip. I suggest you guys try that out.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: d3ll on June 05, 2006, 02:37:14 AM
I can't see it mate, if so, its nothing to worry about imho. I'm not saying your a girl or being girly about it, but mine are much bigger, as are other people on this forums. Your gyne isnt OUTSIDE of your nipples, so people won't notice (i doubt it anyway).

one way to cover them up - put ur arms up, when you have wet hair, and just brush your hair, putting your biceps over your nipples. I'm really well built - muscle wise, my gyne wrecks my whole physicque, i might stop working out and see if that helps, the gyne sticks out like a saw thumb damn it :@
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: There_Is_Hope on June 05, 2006, 03:10:03 AM
I missed a high-school trip to the water park for the same reason.

Honestly, if it's your senior trip, as already mentioned, you wont be seeing 90% of these people after the trip so just go for it. The biggest part of overcoming your fears is facing them head on. I'm still self-concious about my chest, but as of late I've said f-it and started taking my shirt off and whatnot and no one has said a thing.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: hiufung88319 on June 05, 2006, 03:13:37 AM
I don't think you have gyne....
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: SC GameCOCKS on June 05, 2006, 04:03:16 AM
Wow I was def expecting something worse...start packing your bags and get ready for a good time man! Your cause is very mild, so definatly go. Im glad the liquid band-aid suggestion worked for ya!
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 05, 2006, 01:28:34 PM
I think its a combination of bad pioctures and the tight nipples, but it is def a little worse then that.

It's going to be the first time I have my shirt off in oublic in almost 3 years...wow
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: halo2006 on June 05, 2006, 06:11:15 PM
dude, u look fine. mine is 1000000x worse, i live in nyc, across the street from the beach, and my building has a pool, lots of girls everywhere. i'd kill to have your chest cuz i had some nice breasts. u have NOTHING to worry about.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: Paa_Paw on June 05, 2006, 06:38:58 PM
I cannot estimate how often I've read that line about it being much worse than the pictures indicate.

This puzzles me as I have never owned a camera capable of lying.

Gynecomastia is a family trait and no one in my family over the age of eleven has a chest anywhere near that flat.

I'd suggest that the Dr. you really need to see is a Psychologist.  What is going on between your ears is much more important than what is on your chest.

Have fun in Mexico.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 08, 2006, 08:20:55 PM
Liquid Bandage is amazing.

Got home at 3:30, applied it to both sides, went outside and swimming from 4:00-:700ish, then went and played baseball and baseball and basketball and got back at 10 and both nipples were tight and nice. My chest still sucks but the liquid bandage is amazing and may be my confidence booster in mexico. I'm still really nervous about walking topless on beaches instead of going swimming then throwing on a shirt...I'm going to try and play water polo with my friends so they see me before mexico and I know what to expect.

From my use using this I highly suggest it...it helped me a ton and boosted my confidence from scared to just paranoid and nervous and a little scared.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: headheldhigh01 on June 09, 2006, 09:53:05 PM
having a mild case instead of d-cups is no insurance against misery from your peers, and although mine was worse than his, i should know.  

in any case like this i think your best shot is talking to a teacher or counselor you can trust and exempting out of whatever part would require you to expose yourself.  
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: Vrocker on June 10, 2006, 10:44:34 AM
you sound like me... I always wear at least two shirts (a tee shirt that is too tight with a loose one over it and often a long button up shirt over that) even when it is hot

The thing is though that you shouldn't let it bother you around your friends I have a lot of friends that I go camping and swimming with and have no problem taking my shirt off around them... sure it can be a little uncomfortable but they are your friends so I'm sure they won't make fun of you.  

As it is your senior trip though I assume people who you aren't really friends with will be there... well as said you prolly won't ever see them again.

This is a fear like anything else... when you piece it out you can say things like "if they are your friends they really won't care" or "the only people that make fun of you are pathetic themselves and it is their problem not yours' and that is true but if you are anything like me that isn't going to make you feel any better about doing it.

My suggestion... go for it, but only if you think you can either not let it preoccupy you the entire time or avoid it being a problem. Because honestly if you go and let yourself have a terrible time it isn't going to do anything but make your self esteem problems worse.\


EDIT: I just saw your pics and it looks fine to me... I mean I could notice but I was also looking for it.  I think most people looking wouldn't think there is anything abnormal about your chest.  You are actually pretty lucky I would say from those pics.  Most of my chest is muscle but that small amount of fat or w/e around my nipples makes the whole thing look bad...


http://www.gynecomastia.org/cgi-bin/gyne_yabb/YaBB.cgi?board=11;action=display;num=1149879027
If you want to compare

Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: alvin on June 12, 2006, 01:26:49 PM
You sound exatly like me man... all the seniors were going on a trip to puerto villarta Mexico after school got out this year. I ended up not going SPECIFICALY because of my mild case of gyn with puffy nipples. I told everyone it was because i didnt want to pay so much money for the trip but that wasnt it at all.

Like you i dont care about beign in the pool, its the transision periods when u just get out and right before you get in, or just lying around the pool in the sun.

Just pinch them really good before you get in and out, and if you dont want to throw your shirt on right when you get out do what i do: roll up your towl and throw it around your neck, so the ends hang down and cover up your nips perfectly... after a bit just put ur shirt on.

Earlier people mentioned putting liquid band-aid on, i plan on trying this too. Maybe alos the alo vera lotion.. anyways good luck on your trip, i'm sure if i'd gone it woudlnt have ended up beign a big deal, just get drunk and have fun man.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: Chodel on June 12, 2006, 03:24:59 PM
i would kill for a chest like that  :(
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on June 12, 2006, 08:39:51 PM
I dont think you would.

I'm so scared...could care less about my friends but rather all the girls that are going to be there...and they all will be shallow. I have a girl who likes me and wants to show me how to surf but im really nervous. Theres no way I survive unless Im drunk 99% of the time. I don't know what to do.

The worst is I'm alone. My parents are the most unsympathetic people ever and come in my room telling me to come in the jacuzzi with them then questioning me and calling me weird...no friends...nobody.

Getting ready for 7 days in hell
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: swe on June 13, 2006, 12:42:10 PM
Listen boy...

CONCLUSION:


If you'r going to the trip, 1) make sure you pinch the thing the whole time. When you're outside the water, 2) cover it with a small white towel...BUT REMEMBER, every few minutes pinch it and take the towel off to tell people, I HAVE NORMAL ONCE.

And act like a big man, if someone is making fun of you

Then put your shirt on when you get a chance.

I wish u all luck boy...and show the girl who u r, not who u wanna be. Just think your a pi*mp, and dont forget to be cooool!!!
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on July 01, 2006, 03:03:16 PM
Got back yesterday.

Went better then I thought. Was there for 8 days and we took like 3 days off from the beach to visit the city, landmarks, etc.

Went to the beach and the pool a couple of times...always had the shirt nearby and always had it on as soon as I got out. Had 1 guy say a comment to me but I ignored it. Went surfing a couple of times so I felt that I proved to my friends I wasnt scared to take my shirt of while not having to flaunt it. So overall, avoided any teasing, didnt have it off that much, and made it out alive while having a bunch of fun. I could of had a ton more, but I wasnt comforatable going that big.

Now I got 3 months to worry about before college. College is going to be a lot less private, so i think I'm going to order some Rebound XT and give that a shot, and start praying.
Title: Re: High School Trip/Help
Post by: digitalgangsta21 on July 02, 2006, 11:04:24 AM
The comment was "He likes breast stroke the most since he is so used to having them"

I did overanalyze it but I forgot about it. I was shocked to see how many different types of chests there were on the beach. Like 80% of older guys had some form of it, and a lot of younger guys had it to, I was surprised.

Anybody who went to college have any advice? I dont know what I can do with 3 months besides try some drugs and work out maybe,
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