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General => Parents/Family/Friends => Topic started by: tpuk on October 10, 2012, 06:56:45 PM

Title: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on October 10, 2012, 06:56:45 PM
Hi guys,

I've read the forums a bit.

You all know the score by the sounds.....

Anyways - I've basically never lived any sort of life in part because of this shit condition (and anxiety problems for which I have recently started seeing a shrink). I am now 39, and just come into some money & just thought fxxk it & booked up with Levick.

I have a skinny/puppy fat type body with medium gyn.

I approached my GP about 2 months ago, told him the problem, how it has ruined my life, never been to a beach or swimming, dont play sports, avoided relationships (not just 1 night stands).

Standard bullshit 'do some pressups' etc response. lol.

Other complications are that my Test levels are low (11 from a 9-28 range) and I just found out I have low bone density......so more tests to come.

I requested the above tests because of my feelings of low Test levels & an undecended testicle in my teens. The GPs would have done nothing  ??? ???

I went for an endo appointment - she says 'dont worry - your a good looking guy'. etc etc.

So today I tell my mum all this stuff as I need a lift up for the OP, she's basically pissed off (she thinks its nothing to worry about). She barks out that ive wasted my life etc by not dealing with this sooner (I am a virtual recluse now - I was becoming fully alcoholic/drugged also but quit last Nov)....

Bit gutted by her reaction.

Dunno what to expect from surgery, I don't care either - I am going to take action with this issue & if it cannot be fixed - then I have tried....thats all I can do.

I am scared about surgery, as I suffer very bad anxiety & panic attacks esp in places like hospitals  ;D haha. God - I am just gonna have to suck it up & hope for the best....I really feel very angry for people that have no money for surgery & doctors that dont understand the impact this has..its just so embarrassing & the NHS just made me feel like a fool even though all my assumptions were correct as proven by blood test & bone density scan. To say that I dont have gyn is simply laughable. :'(

My message to anybody younger than me is just tell your parents now/today....there is no time for any man to waste in this life.... darn how embarrassing it is - just do it - hopefully you will get a shot at help....don't rot away like I have.

/rant.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: Paa_Paw on October 10, 2012, 10:50:37 PM
The key words came from your Mom. "You should have done something sooner."

Yet, I really cannot say anything myself as this remained my personal embarrassment for many years too.

Somehow we need to convince young men that the first thing needed to get this behind you is to speak up.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on January 23, 2013, 06:31:52 PM
I am about 10 weeks+ post-op now.

I'm pleased with the result. I've walked around in public with just a t-shirt for the first time in well over a decade :) this freedom is what I wanted....

Hopefully I will be swimming & stuff soon.

I experienced pretty much zero bruising, mild pain that responded very well to paracetamol, no scar tissue (yet). Having the drains removed hurt a bit I would say - but its just a stinging sensation that doesn't last.

Results from removing the dressing 1 week post-op were mind-blowing it was crazy. After 9 weeks in the compression vest my chest was less dramatically 'flat' but the glands are very obviously not there & overall I think anymore fat removal would just look un-natural.

My areola have shrunk a bit from how they were pre-op.

I have confidence issues that have not evaporated post-op (I do have much better general mood) - but that is as I expected. ...but this is a massive weight off my mind.......I have recently noticed some of my summer shirts in the washing... they are HUGE...(I shifted alot of weight pre-op aswell) assuming everything stays as is I intend burning them :) They represent alot of unhappiness for me.

It still is a bit wierd with regard to who to tell. A friend came over the other night & was telling me about a gameshow where the host asked the contestant what he would do if he won the prize. The contestant apparently said 'well I've always wanted to do something about my manboobs & have plastic surgery etc etc'. My friend thought this was pretty crazy :) It wouldda been the ideal opportunity for me to tell my best mate about my op. But I just dont know if he could understand...

anyway - just thought I would update the thread as its been read a few times now.

@ paa_paw - yeh more blokes need to talk about this stuff ... difficult when I can't mention it to my best friend or even my brother or father (both family members have gyn in varying degrees).







Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: Paa_Paw on January 25, 2013, 01:55:15 AM
If I was to use one single word to describe the feelings expressed by many young men after their surgery I think the word would be: "liberated."

Congratulations!

Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on February 04, 2013, 04:52:45 PM
Thanks Paa_Paw :)

I'll prolly update this thread from time 2 time if anything interesting happens.................




Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on February 16, 2013, 09:04:08 AM
* 13 weeks post op *

Just went for my first run (4 miles approx) without the vest & in a normal t-shirt on a sunny/busy day in the park lots of nice girls around & a situation that I would normally avoid/layer up for.

Last time I did that a group of random lads shouted abuse at my body shape :/ I was gutted & never wore just a t-shirt again. That was prolly 6+ years ago......

so it felt great today - I didn't have one moment of paranoia, I am so used to layering up to go running its actually alot easier running in just a t-shirt - I was just floating along. Lovely :)


Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: hammer on February 16, 2013, 10:01:09 AM
Good for you tpuk! Congratulations on your new life!

I wish you the best in the future, as well!


Bob
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on February 27, 2013, 10:14:52 AM
Good for you tpuk! Congratulations on your new life!

I wish you the best in the future, as well!


Bob

Cheers Bob
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on February 27, 2013, 10:18:09 AM
Updating this thread about 3 months post op;

Went swimming for the first time in over 20 years !

I went to the Olympic sized pool we have here. I was super nervous - almost as much as when I had my operation - shaking like a leaf. I took my top off & quickly bundled all my clothes into the locker - but then I couldn't work the key/lock because I can't see shit without glasses ! I had to ask a woman who was stood nearby.

I have missed swimming so much !



Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on March 26, 2013, 06:00:50 PM
Just updating; my operation was 7th November 2012; today its Tuesday 26th March 2013.

Things are OK. I go swimming twice a week - I do 1.5 hours each time to tone up.

I am also running for 1 hour twice a week.

I feel fine about my chest, I can't say i look at myself in the mirror all the time or anything - just that I feel OK about it now. I've noticed that my long time habits like closing my eyes until I have pulled my t-shirt on remain, and I dont look in the mirror when I get out of the shower etc. My chest feels flat so I try not to obsess about it anymore.

Its been so cold so far this year I haven't thought about summer or anything yet - wearing about 5 layers just to keep warm !

GL all.




Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: thetodd on April 02, 2013, 06:37:49 PM
Itl get better mate, 5 months isnt long in terms of recovery. Eventually something will click in your mind, and it will be fine and you will accept it and be happy with your chest. Its hard to explain but there will be a eureka moment and your whole perception of yourself will change. There was a point where i was really pissed off with my chest, and went back to my surgeon and he just gave me a frank talking too and i left a bit pissed off. On the way home his words really resonated with me, when i got home i just felt so much better and my perspective hasnt changed since.

Its great that you are going swimming and doing runs, will make you look and feel better good luck!
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on April 18, 2013, 05:18:56 PM
cheers thetood :)

Hope I didn't sound negative about my post-op situation. I'm over the moon with the result.

The weather is warmer now & my runs are getting increasingly longer at about 1:20 hours & I can feel my strength growing with the swimming - doing more crawl than breaststroke now & its a proper hard work-out (tougher than the running) - cramp is a bit of a problem but its getting better as my muscles get used to the new schedule.

Its amazing watching the proper swimmers training aswell - some serious training goes on there. I really admire the guys/ladies - they work hard. very hard.

Nice to run in a t-shirt in the sun after all these years sweating balls running in a fleece in the summer.

One of my customers commented on how much weight I had lost (she said hello in the street thinking I was somebody else) & said I looked really healthy n stuff which is cool. Its partly the fact that I am not wearing a xl black t-shirt with a huge baggy work shirt over the top though.

anyways enough rambling, best wishes guys.



Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on April 25, 2013, 09:19:33 PM
I went to a formal event yesterday; bought a shirt, trousers & tie.

Another first; I didn't wear anything under the shirt. Felt cool - all my clothes fitted properly for once. I felt really confident - it really helps with anxiety & depression.

I bumped into many old faces; all seemed to know that I do alot of running these days (rather than drinking in the pub) even though I rarely bump into any of them any more. A few peeps said I look like a 'different person'.

If I keep schedule with the running its feasable that I will do a half marathon for a cancer charity of which my friends father just passed away. He & his sister are meant to be doing it & I can deffo cover then distance now..... just got to commit & sort it out. Sometimes I wonder if anybody has ever run a marathon with a gyno awareness t-shirt on?

GL guys.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: Bain-of-my-life on April 26, 2013, 03:51:19 AM
Awesome mate, really happy for you :)

I had surgery yesterday and know I have a long way to go in terms of recovery but I am very upbeat about things. Can't wait to get in good shape... having gyn puts you off exercising so much!
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on May 08, 2013, 05:29:57 PM
Awesome mate, really happy for you :)

I had surgery yesterday and know I have a long way to go in terms of recovery but I am very upbeat about things. Can't wait to get in good shape... having gyn puts you off exercising so much!

cheers ! Good luck with the recovery :)
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on July 13, 2013, 05:22:06 PM
8 months post op now; quick update.

Yeh its all good for my results; I feel 9/10 happy with the surgery.

I've been trying to get a tan on my upper body now because its been 24 YEARS !!!?? since it last caught sunlight.

OFC I got some mild sunburn, but UK folk never learn when the sun comes out I guess.

My mental state has waxed & waned with healing & resumption of drinking alcohol.

I don't feel that I should ever drink & I do not like the immediate associated effects like weight gain (I have maintained my weight as it was on surgery day though bc of how much exercise I do). Although I cannot physically consume anything like I used to - I still feel anything more than 1 time per week is too much - so that needs sorting.

On a positive note; I have attended a few social (not alcohol related) type group activities recently with good results; and this is a massive breakthrough for me in terms of my years of isolation and anxiety and panic disorder.

Tomorrow I'm off to meet a hiking group/s so its a big test for me (sorry I am talking like I would do on an anxiety forum - hope you understand).

On a side note a friend of mine has recently developed gyne @ 40 years of age - with a rapid onset over say 3 months, partly due to 2 medications he takes & probably alcohol. Its a very odd situation because he has never had any body fat & now has phseudo gyn/gyn developing. Not sure what to say, I can't tell him I had surgery for alot of other more complex reasons. He did do steroids - but that was over 4 years ago now.? He doesn't care though he just has his top off all the time its really turned my assumptions upside down lol.

GL guys :)
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on July 21, 2013, 06:50:44 PM
Met a Lady the other night; she asked me to take my top off & I did. Felt fine - no anxiety ....different feeling

GL guys.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on November 07, 2013, 06:02:55 PM
I'm celebrating 1 year post-op (although I am sober :) )

thoughts still go out to all those guys suffering from gyne & kudos to those who have accepted/overcome it mentally.

GL all.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: thetodd on November 07, 2013, 06:35:42 PM
Nice one mate, nice to hear!
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: sbarock on February 11, 2014, 05:14:42 PM
my son is 14, pretty severe case, wants this surgery bad.

He says he will wait if I want (i'm scared) but I shouldn't should I?

He's dealt with this all his life, now in high school, the teasing is much worse.

Are you super happy with your result? I mean, down deep happy?

How long did it take for recovery, he plays football and we have about 4 months until that starts.

thanks in advance. I'm anxious as heck.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: thetodd on February 12, 2014, 05:44:58 PM
Hes probably to young to have the surgery at 14, how long has he had it for?

If its been less than two years, it may be worth taking him to a doctor and seeing if hormone therapy can reverse it. If anti estrogens are took within the first couple of years the effects can be reversed. However if its been longer than this, he will need surgery but 14 is to young in my opinion some surgeons will do it but the majority will say wait a few years.

Recovery is hard mentally, im not sure if i could have coped with that at 14 to be honest.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on November 29, 2014, 05:04:22 PM
my son is 14, pretty severe case, wants this surgery bad.

He says he will wait if I want (i'm scared) but I shouldn't should I?

He's dealt with this all his life, now in high school, the teasing is much worse.

Are you super happy with your result? I mean, down deep happy?

How long did it take for recovery, he plays football and we have about 4 months until that starts.

thanks in advance. I'm anxious as heck.

A result of a cosmetic operation will not make me 'deep down happy', no. I would say only true love or being a father/mother evokes true happiness, or just a simple wellbeing.

Recovery was good, similar timeframe to a bruised rib maybe.

The mental scarring from the condition is worse. I am perfectly happy now with results - I don't know how long its been now but I makes a huge difference. I go hiking with my shirt off now & catch sun my skin never saw - I'm still sheepish about it but I don't care now.

Test for hormones etc, & wait till he is stable & get it done at some point.
Title: Re: 25+ years secret, Just told my GP/mum/......booked surgery.
Post by: tpuk on November 29, 2014, 05:07:37 PM
Hes probably to young to have the surgery at 14, how long has he had it for?

If its been less than two years, it may be worth taking him to a doctor and seeing if hormone therapy can reverse it. If anti estrogens are took within the first couple of years the effects can be reversed. However if its been longer than this, he will need surgery but 14 is to young in my opinion some surgeons will do it but the majority will say wait a few years.

Recovery is hard mentally, im not sure if i could have coped with that at 14 to be honest.

I agree with this, 14 is v young.
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