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Offline dunkin

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So I am a 40 year old rather fit married man who has dealt with excess chest fat since childhood. I've been told by others that I need a bra. My current doctor actually suggested that I should wear a bra daily due to a current medical condition. I've always been uncomfortable about my chest and growing up I did all kinds of different strength training and lifted wieghts, nothing seemed to eliminate the excess chest fat. I'm not sure if it just fat or if it's gyno, but I've never been able to make it go away no matter what I tried. I've always been a manly man and have a hard time accepting the fact that at least 5 doctors so far have suggested that I wear a bra. My current doctor actually commented that I fill it out nicely when I went to see her for an appointment and I was still wearing one. I am just torn now cause I can't seem to overcome the hurdle of accepting that I need one and being out in public whilst wearing one. I don't think I could handle the rude or cure comments from others. I never pictured myself in this situation, I always figured at some point that the excess chest fat would go away through exercise or diet but nothing has worked. Now I'm not saying I'm huge by any means, but it's enough to be noticeable even without a bra. Years ago when I first met my wife, my mother in law looked me square in the eye and said, you need a bra. And that was a shocker to me coming from this woman. And at that time I hadn't even thought of wearing one even with all the teasing from others. I just am at a point where I don't know what I should do. I can't afford to have surgery, but can't go out in public wearing a bra, but also can't go without one due to pain. I injured myself pretty good on a rescue call and tore the intercostal muscles in my right chest, tore the right rohmboid muscle completely  off in my back, and all the doctors I've been sent to say there is nothing they can do to repair the damage as its been 3 years since the injury. So now having some excess chest fat and a lot of muscle damage, there isn't much to support my right side and the constant bouncing and jiggling is extremely painfull. I need constant chest compression and I've literally spent thousands on different type braces and compression shirts but to no avail. Then one of the doctors I was seeing for the injury suggested I try a bra, it was instant relief, then all the others jumped on the bandwagon as far as me wearing a bra to support my chest and give some comfort. So again, here I sit, stuck either wearing my bra in secret from others trying not to be found out, or I go without and I'm in pain all day. Luckily my wife has been right by my side through all of this and she does her best to help me through all of it. I guess it's like she tells me, who cares what anyone thinks of it, it helps you make it through your day with less pain. But that is easier said than done when ever I try to go out while wearing.

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hammer

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I'm a lot bigger than you (46H) and no one has ever said anything to me about having a bra on, or I can't even say that anyone has ever noticed because people are so busy worry about their own problems they done give a darn about yours or mine anyway!

It is also great that you have others that care about you and don't care that you wear a bra to support the breast! Not everyone has that kind of family backing!

Welcome to the forum, and good luck!

Offline dunkin

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Thank you Hammer. I admit that I'm not big, but for a guy my size they do stick out. I wear a 38B. I'm sorry to hear of your size, that must be very hard to deal with. I couldn't imagine. I'm just reaching out trying to figure out how to handle this. I never thought I'd have multiple doctors tell me I need a bra. It's a hard thing for me to take.I'm sure you've had this same problem at some point. My biggest issue is that with all the torn muscle damage I have now, I don't have much left on the right side to support the excess fat or gyno or whatever it is.

hammer

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I have other health issues that are much more important than having breast! So I don't even worry about them anymore. I did have gynecomastia as a teen but had a issue after getting a vasectomy and lost my testicles, so the breast grew like well watered weeds after that!

If you want to take the time i have my story in "stories" it is titled "my story after all these years" and it may help you put a different prospective on having breast development. Some have told me after reading it, it had help them changed their view on how they looked at how serious or not it was to develop breast compared to what could happen.

I'm here if you have questions!

Offline dunkin

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Well thank you Hammer, I will go back and read your story and see if it helps me also.

Offline Et1964

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Listen to Hammer....he speaks sense.  Helped me heaps, made me feel better, and I think I'm a bit bigger than you.

Best of luck.

Offline dunkin

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Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement. This is why I finally chose to open up about my condition on this forum seeing how everybody is respectful. Now I do realize I'm not as big as some of you, but at 5'7" 180lbs not obese by any standard, on my small frame my 38B chest sticks out noticeably. Maybe some of it is in my head, who knows. As far as me being cold in the pic,lol, I only get unpadded bras as I don't want to add to the size and my nips actually point through my shirts without a bra as well. Don't know why but they are always pointy regardless of temperature or bra. I've heard it all through the years as far as being picked on for pointy nips and moods that bounce if I run or whatever. I'm just glad to be able to talk finally after all these years with open minded individuals who know what I'm going through and I thank you all for that.

hammer

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If you have trouble finding bras that fits good you may want to go get a formal fitting done. You will find that the ladies treat you with great respect and the help you get is overwhelming as well!

My wife said that I was treated better at the boutique in St. Paul that I go to then our daughter was at one of the major department stores at the mall of America where she took her for her fitting!


 

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