Author Topic: Am l being a hypocrite or over thinking it?  (Read 406 times)

Offline My twins

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Does anyone else feel like a hypocrite when not wearing a bra outside the house? I wear mine all the time with the exception of work. I had to go to the ER on Sunday for kidney stones only to find out that l also have shingles.  The pain is almost unbearable even today. But when I showered to go to the ER l did not dress in clothing that I would normally wear, l dressed in all male clothes even my underwear. I just thought it would make things easier for everyone. 

But now I feel like a hypocrite for not just being me. I always wear my bra and really don't care about anyone seeing my bra. Now I don't make it obvious,  I wear layers to hide it somewhat. 

What do you think? 

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Life is too short to worry about being judged by people that we would never take advice from anyway.

Offline Moobzie

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Short answer:
NO.
When I go for med appts that require or may require torso examination (e.g., cardio, dermatology) I don't wear a bra.  lt's not hypocrisy, just common sense.

Offline SideSet

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We are in limbo. We need to wear bras like women do, but don’t have acceptance like women do. 

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Offline Traveler

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I don’t think you’re a hypocrite, it’s more about that you’re feeling a little shame for needing a bra. 
Honestly, medical professionals have seen it all and know some men need a bra due to normal variations of the human body and couldn’t care less. 

Offline Moobzie

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I agree with Traveler - all the medical staff who've examined me over the years KNOW I have fairly well developed breasts.  There have never been any negative reaction / comments from them.

I have no problem wearing a bra when there won't be any chest exam.  When there is, it's not only common sense but also medical convenience to not have my bra on.

Offline SideSet

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I agree with Traveler - all the medical staff who've examined me over the years KNOW I have fairly well developed breasts.  There have never been any negative reaction / comments from them.

I have no problem wearing a bra when there won't be any chest exam.  When there is, it's not only common sense but also medical convenience to not have my bra on.
Moobzie, I can relate. Our breasts are obviously big enough that everyone knows. What is your bra size? 

Offline Orb

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We're a strange lot of men.  Trying to encourage those of us with a developed to accept our bodies and...live.  Comfortably and happily.  We discuss the need for a bra, the comfort of and how to deal with societal acceptance. 
  Wearing to a medical or social event or not is and always should be a personal choice.  To feel any type of guilt or sense of hypocrisy should never be a consideration.  We wear, or not, for comfort and peace of mind.  Not wearing in situations like that gives you piece of mind. Good for YOU!
  Smile on.

Offline brock123

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I mean, yeah, it's still a societal "bridge too far" for us men, yes?  All people (men/women) are naturally inclined to want to present their "best selves", doubly so if any nudity may be required for the situation.  I think what happens to us is the fear of being judged by other men, regardless of if they know/understand/don't care about our perceived physical appearances.  This is hard to anticipate.

IMO, males are best served by female doctors.  They are, by nature, more compassionate individuals than we tend to be, but are also more honest about and better judges of their opposite sex's feelings.  Male doctors will tend to lean into correcting the condition at whatever means necessary (typically surgery), but Female doctors will tend to guide you towards dealing with your feelings about how you see yourself and what you want out of your life going forward before making any judgement calls like surgery.

I cannot provide any true guidance here, but I can say that recently every time my spouse and I have intercourse, she tends to gravitate towards and fondle my chest a lot.  For me, it's pseudo and "doesn't do anything" erotic, but I am still happy that she thinks it is something I'd enjoy, and have come to believe that it's doing more for her than it is for me, so all good, right?

Offline SideSet

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She sees you have breasts like she does.  She sees you wear bras like she does. She knows what feels good with her breasts. She assumes it would feel good to you with your breasts.  She wants to give that to you.  She must be a good and loving partner to do that and be that way.  I doubt most women would. 

Offline My twins

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I think I  was over thinking the whole problem.  I do miss my old doctor that knew me and my problem so well.  He was the first one to suggest I wear a bra and I always wore one when seeing him for whatever reason I had to see a doctor. Plus like it was stated here healthcare provider have seen it all before.  I still at a full C cup think if l was just a little larger then folks who noticed would understand that l wear it because I need it. Thanks for your advise on this, this group is great!

Offline bustymale

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Anybody, woman or man, who is a C cup should wear a bra both for comfort and appearance. 

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I would not wear when going for any medical appointment. I is not hypocritical.
The last thing you need in a medical consultation is any form of distraction for what ever reason. 

Offline blad

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Although we may have determined that our needs are best served by wearing a bra on a daily basis, we do not necessarily want to share that with the rest of the world just yet. 

In the presence of medical professionals is a middle ground.
If the bra fits, wear it.


 

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