Author Topic: 20 year old 10 years with Gyne  (Read 3199 times)

Offline noniman

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Hello I am 20 years old and I am pretty tired with this problem I've had for about half of my life. Ever since I have had it I have been ashamed of myself and feel uncomfortable. Some things I do on a daily basis is put some electrical tape on each of my nipples to make it seem more manly but it is making my skin tear and it hurts. I have been affected psychologically  and I really want to find a solution to this. I was told by a doctor when I was 14 that it would go away at 18 but it has not. There was a period of time in which it wasn't as bad but now i measure it with both of my hands "one on top of the other" and they are growing. I am married and thanks to my wife because she makes me feel comfortable. I just wish this would go away and I am finally willing to do something about it. I am paying for lasik which I got done 4 months ago and i am short on money right now. I feel like i've been hiding my true self from people including my mother in law and other family members. I just feel so insecure like a secret i am hiding. I want to know what steps I need to take to find a surgeon or a specialist that can guide me in where to begin. My father works for an airline and i am still covered under his insurance but i dont know if they would say this is cosmetic. My father tells me to say that it hurts so that the insurance will cover it but i dont know. I just need some answers and help from anyone that reads this. Thank you

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Offline scousered45

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Hello I am 20 years old and I am pretty tired with this problem I've had for about half of my life. Ever since I have had it I have been ashamed of myself and feel uncomfortable. Some things I do on a daily basis is put some electrical tape on each of my nipples to make it seem more manly but it is making my skin tear and it hurts. I have been affected psychologically  and I really want to find a solution to this. I was told by a doctor when I was 14 that it would go away at 18 but it has not. There was a period of time in which it wasn't as bad but now i measure it with both of my hands "one on top of the other" and they are growing. I am married and thanks to my wife because she makes me feel comfortable. I just wish this would go away and I am finally willing to do something about it. I am paying for lasik which I got done 4 months ago and i am short on money right now. I feel like i've been hiding my true self from people including my mother in law and other family members. I just feel so insecure like a secret i am hiding. I want to know what steps I need to take to find a surgeon or a specialist that can guide me in where to begin. My father works for an airline and i am still covered under his insurance but i dont know if they would say this is cosmetic. My father tells me to say that it hurts so that the insurance will cover it but i dont know. I just need some answers and help from anyone that reads this. Thank you

Someone said on here earlier that they got their surgery done free by the NHS (English National health service) because they said about how it stopped them going on holiday with his friend or something, so just explaining the psychological effects would work.

I would strongly advise surgery if it is causing you problems and don't fall for the lypo only, gland needs to be removed in most cases for it to have a significant effect. If you want to find a surgeon, there is American ones listed on here, but I found my surgeon by my doctor who just sent a letter to him, so I didn't do any looking really.

Offline noniman

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It took some time getting comfortable taking my shirt off in front of my wife and she says she wouldn't change anything about me. What matters is that I want to enjoy life more. Whenever we want to go on vacation to the beach, I always find an excuse to not go because of course i dont want to take my shirt off. Last year we went to Waikiki Beach and I didnt get to enjoy it to the fullest even though I did take my shirt off for a few minutes. I just see people starring at me and I get an awkward feeling. Same thing when I play soccer with friends and I also had a hard time being teased in soccer class back in high school. I am a strong believer in the "Law of Attraction". If you get a chance, take a look at the "The Secret" dvd. I believe God put my wife in my hands and I am so thankful that she loves me for everything I am.

Offline scousered45

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It took some time getting comfortable taking my shirt off in front of my wife and she says she wouldn't change anything about me. What matters is that I want to enjoy life more. Whenever we want to go on vacation to the beach, I always find an excuse to not go because of course i dont want to take my shirt off. Last year we went to Waikiki Beach and I didnt get to enjoy it to the fullest even though I did take my shirt off for a few minutes. I just see people starring at me and I get an awkward feeling. Same thing when I play soccer with friends and I also had a hard time being teased in soccer class back in high school. I am a strong believer in the "Law of Attraction". If you get a chance, take a look at the "The Secret" dvd. I believe God put my wife in my hands and I am so thankful that she loves me for everything I am.

You should be glad you have a supportive wife, even though I know in general people are nice and probably don't notice or pay much attention to your physical appearance beyond a certain age I'm quite shy in front of girls and I'm sure its because of my gyne.

I also find that others who do know that you have gyne and tell you its nothing to worry about just don't understand what it is like, my parents are a prime example but they supported me and paid for my operation which I am so thankful for. I would suggest going for an operation if you think it will improve your quality of life, just make sure you do proper research and everything for the right surgeon.

Keep us updated.

Good luck.

Offline noniman

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No problem ill keep you guys updated. My journey begins in finding a surgeon this week! 8)

Offline braveheart11

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Man I'm 20 years old too and a college student. I have been suffering from Gynecomastia since the 7th grade. It is something that I have been trying to hide ever since. Throughout high school I wore big shirts to try and hide it. However, Sometimes it looked invisible but to me I always knew it was there. I am a guy with a lot of confidence. My confidence is due to Gynecomastia. I always told myself to either learn to live with it or change it. I'm now in my second year of college. I'm lovin it. I'm 20, somewhat single..lol and living hard. However, Gynecomastia is still something I struggle with. Just hearing your story makes me feel 100% better. Just knowing that there are guys out there withthe same condition I have and who wants to change it give me hope. I was for a long time shame to tell my parents about my Gynecomastia. When my parents did finally start noticing I would just play it off as nothing. Now six years later I believe I'm ready to re-open this conversation about my Gynecomastia. I think I am finally ready to confront this problem and free myself. I feel I hold back in relationships and in my social life because of my Gynecomastia. I am a very social person who loves to meet new people. Meeting new people help me to overcome a lot of problems in my life so any thing that can be a potenial hinderance to my social life needs to go. Hopefully by Winter 2009 I will have this problem fixed. I'm beginning to save money know and by the fall I should have reached my goal and can start my search for good doctors. Nevertheless, knowing that there are young men out there like myself who suffers from this condition gives me hope. Its almost like having a brother who shares your same dicomforts and pain. God bless you and Good Luck! Inspiration


 

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