Author Topic: Told you should wear a bra  (Read 3445 times)

Offline Johndoe1

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Ah, I see. That makes much more sense. Thanks for clearing that up for me.

Offline SideSet

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 How wonderful she recognized that your C cup size breasts belong in a bra  and that she wanted you to wear a bra.  Did she say it was for support or appearance or both? What kind of bra(s) She get you? Did she measure you? 

Offline SideSet

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That was really good of her.  I would guess that after 10 years, it has become second nature for both you and her that you wear a bra just like her and other women. 

Offline aboywithgirls

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I know that for me, after 30 years, it has become second nature. It definitely feels weird without a bra.
Bras aren't for women, they're for breasts.

Offline blad

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Early in our marriage, my wife told me I needed a bra more than she did. But I already knew that.
If the bra fits, wear it.

Offline Dale Warnio

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 That was very helpful of your wife. How exactly did she say it? 

Offline blad

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That was very helpful of your wife. How exactly did she say it?
Initially it was a bit sarcastic. A bit surprising in that my breasts were fully developed when we married. I think at first she was under the impression that I just needed to loose weight, even though I was only about 180lbs at close to six feet tall.

But it did lead to further discussions and I did clarify that it was true gyno, as per my medical tests as a teen. It was not going away with exercise. She was sorry for being blunt. 

Offline Dale Warnio

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What did she say/do then?

Offline blad

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What did she say/do then?
This was an opportunity for me to wear my bras more openly around her. This spurred further conversations and ultimately lead to an understanding that if I felt more comfortable wearing a bra then it was ok to do so. I think she wanted to be sure that this was a functional thing and not some bigger issue. 

Offline Dale Warnio

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Your wife sounds pretty special. And you handled it well, also

Offline Dudewithboobs

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I think that’s my main concern is having my wife understand it’s for function not fetish or some seeded opportunity to ease in to more feminine attires. I can only imagine how one may need to process and come to grips with a husband or man who has suddenly developed breasts and now asking for a bra and going what’s next panties, dresses, etc. I wish I had breasts while we were dating it would have been much easier to approach I think given there was nothing at risk if she said I can’t do this. 

Offline blad

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I think that’s my main concern is having my wife understand it’s for function not fetish or some seeded opportunity to ease in to more feminine attires. I can only imagine how one may need to process and come to grips with a husband or man who has suddenly developed breasts and now asking for a bra and going what’s next panties, dresses, etc. I wish I had breasts while we were dating it would have been much easier to approach I think given there was nothing at risk if she said I can’t do this.
I think this is a big consideration for most wives when first confronting the topic. They skip the logic part at first and their mind investigates all kinds of alternate possibilities. It takes some discussion to focus the topic back to logical need and function.

Offline 42CSuprise!

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Just imagine how disconcerting it is for wives who learn their husbands are in fact crossdressers.  The angst those men experience in raising the subject with their wives is close to what is discussed here, but obviously our NEED for brassieres is very different from their NEED to express themselves using women's garments.  But this is a delicate topic to discuss with anyone in our lives.  Understanding the feelings of those who share our lives is critical.  And there is no guarantee we'll be met with kindness.  Sometimes caring for our needs becomes a minefield.

Offline Dudewithboobs

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Which is exactly why I don’t care to bring my wife here. It only takes one finding to make one believe there’s other agendas. Unfortunately while I don’t care what one wears does etc. I would say the topics here recently have become too delicate for me to care to show my wife here. If she stumbled upon it great. But the consistent talk of wearing women’s clothing and not caring about sexual assignment to clothing. Has become too borderline for me to try to bring her to the forum. Unfortunately if I was a woman viewing this forum currently I would assume it is a place of men justifying the wearing of women’s clothing and arguing why it shouldn’t matter while simultaneously claiming it isn’t cross dressing.
I would if I was a woman ignore the fact men suffer from this and have imbalances and so forth that may cause male clothing to feel awkward and a bra making more sense for comfort and blouses more reasonable than button ups cause of the room a blouse offers in the chest and so forth. And just see a bunch of dudes talking about bras panties blouses and jeans.

Not intending to insult. Just saying with a wife my biggest concern is how to address my chest and interest in wearing bras openly. My bigger concern would be inviting her to this forum in its current topics given current is what will be seen no archived. And while I’m perfectly understanding and agree with much of the talk here. As a woman I would be concerned as to why my husband brought me here to make his case.

I honestly wish we had more shared pictures of things. I feel seeing is believing and while a flooding of images isn’t by any means needed. You go to user photos and it’s mainly just dudes with pecs asking if it’s gyne or chubby dudes who have it cause of weight issues. You go on Reddit gynecomastia same thing. There’s no medium it seems. Dudes here who are 34 36 38 banded it would be nice to see cause I’m 34 years old fairly fit and have b cups I don’t see anyone like me ever I feel pretty alone. And feel if I was gonna show my wife a forum I’d rather show her like see these guys are great guys I’ve talked to them with them seen their topics and they get it they deal like I am dealing and have helped me a lot and then when reading if asked do they really need a bra though. I can be like glad you asked. Scroll to users photo lol. 

Hell I wouldn’t mind if joining you had to have a picture of what you’re dealing with accepting and living with to show you aren’t just lurking but actually can contribute based on experience. But idk. I’m just talking lol 

Offline blad

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I don't think this forum was ever really meant to share with the wife. It is where guys feel more safe to discuss a common issue among themselves and open up when normally we are closed off. 

As they say, you can't please everyone.


 

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