Author Topic: Told you should wear a bra  (Read 4847 times)

Offline 42CSuprise!

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You've mentioned before bringing your wife to the thread and being concerned about what she would encounter.  I don't understand why you would WANT to invite her to this website.  If you want to simply educate her to what gynecomastia is you can show her the Mayo Clinic pages describing the condition and the Breast Life article titled Why Guys Wear Bras Instead of Going Under the Knife

This is a website where you have the opportunity to explore your feelings and needs.  Absolutely, men here are each finding their own relationship to the simple fact of having breasts but this is not one size fits all.  You know what you want so it hardly matters that some men wear panties because they are more comfortable, or women's jeans because the same hormones that gave them breasts affected other parts of their bodies.  Since that isn't relevant to you, share with her what will help make your case.  I take it you don't want to go under the knife.  If you did and money is a problem, you could say that to your wife and the two of you can find a way to save or borrow the money.  If you don't want surgery but do want the support of a bra... the resources above will get you there and you don't need to introduce her to this site.  I certainly am not sharing this with anyone else, even though I've told a few people about my breasts.

Yes, this is a dicey topic for a number of reasons.  I think it best that all of our complex and evocative conversations be kept among us.

Offline blad

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Hell I wouldn’t mind if joining you had to have a picture of what you’re dealing with accepting and living with to show you aren’t just lurking but actually can contribute based on experience. But idk. I’m just talking lol
Just to have fun with this;

We could have the "Gyno Adjudication Council", or "GAC". Prospective new members here would submit 3 different views of their chest with and without their favorite bra on to the GAC that would the rule if your gyno was significant enough to join. 

I can see some of the replies now; 1) Are you kidding, that's only an AA cup at best. Come back after you grow some more. 2) Nice rack, you're in. 3) Breasts forms! Nice try weirdo. 

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If the bra fits, wear it.

Offline 42CSuprise!

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Got a smile out of me with that one Blad... :P

Online taxmapper

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My niece.   Then the other half. 

Even an old friend told me to wear one. 

So... I have nice collection of sports bras now. 

Offline Dale Warnio

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Aren’t you glad they suggested and you followed their advice? What do they say now ?

Offline Robin_wayne

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I was not well after seeing what my body is developing. I couldn't talk about it too anyone. It feels soo embarrassed taking about it. I was in desperate need of help esp emotionally. One of my female friend noticed about it & told me to show me. Reluctant to it, i showed her & she was surprised to see i was developing breasts & nipples was popping out. Then she calmed me down & comforted me that i should wear a bra. She then explained me how it's a need & female also wears it for sake of comfort. Then she measured me & shopped for me & bought couple of things. She told to wear it as ur body need to wear for comfortable. I then onwards wear bra & now ita s usual clothing for me. 

So it was my female friend who adviced me to wear bra. 

Offline Quest

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My cousin made me understand that I should wear a bra. But she didn't do it too delicately.
I was 17 at the time, my cousin was about 30. I was at the beach with my parents and my cousin. My cousin suddenly said that my breasts were bigger than hers. She didn't say it outright, but she made it clear that I shouldn't be walking around with my breasts bare.
Nobody continued the topic.


Offline Traveler

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Wow... Not too delicate indeed! Shaming like that never helps. How are you dealing with it now?

Offline Quest

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I couldn't deal with it for a long time. Despite the endocrinologist's assurances that the breasts disappeared, they remain to this day. I'm 30 now and my breasts are currently 38D.

After losing weight, the breasts become more visible and a little sag. For this reason, I'm thinking about wearing the bra more often.
Do you think it would be beneficial?


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I couldn't deal with it for a long time. Despite the endocrinologist's assurances that the breasts disappeared, they remain to this day. I'm 30 now and my breasts are currently 38D.

After losing weight, the breasts become more visible and a little sag. For this reason, I'm thinking about wearing the bra more often.
Do you think it would be beneficial?
At 38D? Absolutely! While it’s really up to you and where you are in your acceptance of being a male with sizable breasts; truly bigger than most women; it is a big decision. I personally waited way too long before trying bras. I feel they’re the best thing ever now, and wear full time. A proper fitting bra can actually obscure the outline and control jiggling that draws the eye to your chest. It also feels really good to be finally in control of your chest. You’ll feel relief from the sagging and jiggle. 

Offline Quest

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I'm slowly starting to get convinced by this idea, but in a regular bra, the breasts are much more visible.
I also tried a sports bra, but I couldn't stand it for long. If I were to wear a bra, it would be a regular bra - it's more comfortable.
Without a bra, the most annoying thing is the sticking of the breasts to the skin of the stomach and the boob sweat. Jiggling and nipple chafing is also not a pleasant experience.

Is it typical for gynecomastia to significantly enlarge the nipple when it's warm? 
I can see a very big difference in my case.

Offline p.r.1974

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Yes, my experience has been similar with heat relaxing the skin , and thus the nipple. I believe that mileage varies per individual. My experience being that cold contracts, and will poke out of a shirt without a bra with padding or nip covers. if they are developed enough to do so. I haven't had traditionally male nipples since about 10.

Offline SideSet

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Your cousin was not tactful, but she was correct.  You will look and feel better in a bra 


 

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