Author Topic: How important was discovering a bra to your acceptance  (Read 1270 times)

Offline blad

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How important was trying a bra for the first time to your acceptance of having boobs.

As I have written before, when I tried a bra for the first time in my early teen years it was like a light bulb went off in my feelings towards growing boobs. As with virtually anyone, I hated and was totally embarrassed with having grown boobs in my early teens. I was bewildered and totally alone in dealing with the situation with no source of reference or guidance. Although my mother did have me examined by a group of specialists in a children's hospital over a several day stay, nothing was discussed with me after. I remember lots of measurements of my bust size and volume and pictures taken, but no one made any comments or provided any information along the way. Even my mother carried on like nothing had transpired. 

The one source of "guidance" was all the kids at school telling me I needed a bra. This "advice" was eventually acted on when one day I wondered if I actually would fit a bra and how it would feel to wear one. Trying a bra for the first time was a complete revelation. I guess I realized that I really did have boobs big enough for a bra like the many girls did at school. In a strange way I felt special and enjoyed how the bra cups held my breasts in place, and how it was to look down at my cleavage. I liked how I looked in the mirror while wearing a bra, contrasting how negative I felt about how I looked just prior when braless. 

Right away after trying my first bra my opinion of my boobs increased dramatically, and the positive feelings continued to grow as I wore my bras more and more. If it were not for the negativity at school, and feeling it was not safe to wear a bra full time at that point in my life, I believe I was already totally fine with having my own set of boobs and wearing a bra for them like any girl. I was still a guy and liked looking at girls and studying their breasts and bra outlines. I was waiting for the day I could take a bra off a girl. A very complex set of feelings for sure, but what would you expect under the circumstances anyway.

And I still would not be as balanced in my thoughts of having boobs if I was not wearing a bra full time. Wearing a bra is the unifying theory of the universe, at least for me.

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If the bra fits, wear it.

Offline taxmapper

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When young and like most young males I tried the curiosity route and tried on a bra of my sister. (eeewwwww  sister cooties!)

Like most men, I was fascinated with the boobs of any female and always thought the at the larger, the more erotic and sexually powerful a female was. 

Then when I put on a sports bra after the initial growth sensations, voila... It clicked and realized that the boobs were apart of my body, not some slap on gadget to make a girl horny. 

Now I understand the weight factor and more importantly the issues women go through with them. 

if i am hitting 1/10th the irritation of a female especially with her time of the month, my respect levels went way up. 


The bra, simply exemplifies it. 

Offline Dale Warnio

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The first time I put on a bra, I found I pretty much filled the cups. I remember thinking wow, I do need to wear a bra, just like everyone had been saying. 

I liked how my breasts looked and felt in a bra and how the bra looked on me. It was the first time I had any positive feeling about my breasts. 

Offline Dale Warnio

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Bobbie, I am glad you now embrace what seems most natural for you. What is your bra size now ?

Offline Dale Warnio

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C is a nice cup size and too big to go around braless 

Offline Johndoe1

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I have lost some weight but my bust didn't decrease in size so while I went down in band, I went up in cup to maintain volume. But before, the immediate comfort of being supported and contained was instant. Once I got into the correct size bra, I kicked myself for not doing it years before. It was the fear that was driving me to not do it. It was unfounded, I have since found out. Being comfortable made the acceptance all the easier.

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I'm not all that big - that's what stumps me. 

I am under 5'8 & a 38C.

However, I'm at the last strap on a 38 & I fully fill the cup - at any brand.    B's have fit me at other, younger times in life; but now in lieu of the sibling 40B - I use the 40C for at least some brands, and it fits like a glove, leaving me with greater comfort.  I've never had a weight problem.

I would LOVE to be a C cup again! Unfortunately, my genes had something else in mind. The first bra that I was fitted for was a 34C back when I was 16. It only went up from there.

At at 36H UK sizing, I have to shop at specialty bra and lingerie boutiques. I am fortunate that I have a couple close by and they are very friendly. 

I had accepted my girls (for the most part) at a younger age. However it was with age and comfortable, quality, supportive bras that truly made a difference. 
       
Bras aren't for women, they're for breasts.

Offline Dale Warnio

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I agree nothing wrong with you. In fact I think it is nice you have breasts like a woman 

Offline Johndoe1

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I continue to assert that my chest is not "all that big"; and that the (female) colleague who assaulted me in the workplace just had problems--but that I have eyes, a nose, and cheeks -and every of differing sizes and shapes that most others have.  There is nothing wrong with me--I think.             
You are not alone in being harassed in the workplace. I had a supervisor, in front of a meeting of fellow employees call me out that I needed to wear a bra. I have had both male and female co workers touch and/or grab at my chest. At a 36DDD/F, they are hard to miss. The men would cop a quick feel and saying something offensive. The women would grab on to them and squeeze and some would sink their nails into the tissue. It's damn near impossible to pull away at point with long nails embedded in your flesh. I had one run her own breasts into mine in front of another coworker.

Offline Johndoe1

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Thank you.

I present male, but will dress in a women's top if it has a male cut to give the bust a little more room. Depending on the top determines how much projection is noticed. I have gotten to the point now that I don't pay any attention to those who would try something. If someone tries now, I will confront them, where in the past I was passive. Since I have started doing this, the incidents have drastically reduced. I suspect I have an aire of confidence I didn't before and I do carry myself physically different and more confidently than I used to.

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Bobbie 
You are experiencing the worst of a supposed civilised society. 
No one should need to get so twisted by clothing matters just to get by
I Hope you can find solidarity here. 

Offline taxmapper

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Thank you.

I present male, but will dress in a women's top if it has a male cut to give the bust a little more room. 
Because I ride a motorcycle, I have leather jackets, including an older Harley that i really DONT want to get rid of, but being a scooter jacket its a bit on the tight side now. 

I have looked at larger me's sizes but they simply don't cut right. Leather jackets for motorcycles are a tricky thing at times, you really don't want something too lose nor too tight. Its a safety issue that if you lay down the bike something too loose can actually cause more damage. 

The issue I have found though is that all women';s cuts have zippers and buttons on the LEFT side, and that's a dead giveaway your wearing women's clothing. 
Trust me when I say there are biker circles you DONT want that out with! 

That includes the Harley AND Bimmer crowd! 

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Hi Taxmapper
I think you should start a new thread.
It is likely to get lost within this one.
A new thread and title just might pull in the specialised help you are asking for.
Hope you get it!

Offline Johndoe1

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Thank you.

I present male, but will dress in a women's top if it has a male cut to give the bust a little more room.
Because I ride a motorcycle, I have leather jackets, including an older Harley that i really DONT want to get rid of, but being a scooter jacket its a bit on the tight side now.

I have looked at larger me's sizes but they simply don't cut right. Leather jackets for motorcycles are a tricky thing at times, you really don't want something too lose nor too tight. Its a safety issue that if you lay down the bike something too loose can actually cause more damage.

The issue I have found though is that all women';s cuts have zippers and buttons on the LEFT side, and that's a dead giveaway your wearing women's clothing.
Trust me when I say there are biker circles you DONT want that out with!

That includes the Harley AND Bimmer crowd!
You bring up a great point but the truth is, no one has ever noticed that. I can recall twice or three times any woman gave a second look and no one has publicly said or done anything to expose that.

Offline Robin_wayne

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Well frankly saying, it was as important to me as its with the women. Same is the need & same is to feel. One thing was diff that i was male. It was first actually myself to accept that i need it or not. After thinking alot & consoling myself, i decided that i was needing to wear it & should accept this what m i. Nw i wears it daily proudly & confidently. :)


 

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