telling my dad

[avi92]

a few week ago i decided to tell my mom about my condition (10 years  of gynecomatia, im 18 now) and at first it was hard for fer to accept, she thought it was all in my head and that its psycological. anyway.
i went with her to a plastic surgent and shes sort of accepting it now. the problem is that i begged her not to tell my dad, i thought he wouldnt understand or let me do the surgery- but now thats the only thing holding me back from doing the surgery.

i just want this to go away and get out of my life, why dont parents want their chlidren to be happy?!
how can i tell him in a way that he would understand? fathers and men are not as sympatetic as women... he'll never understand.

[kuk4ever]

Ima kinda in the same boat I told my parent they just don't have the money for the surgery kinda sucks Of course they want me to be happy I'm trying everything in my power to get this surgery done like getting a job, house work you name it. My advice to you is to beg and say you will do anything to get the surgery get a temp job just beg and also crying helps lol good luck.

[Paa_Paw]

Since I have a large family. 8 children, 25 grandchildren and 3 great-grandchildren; I have some experience as a parent.

Parents sometimes have a problem seeing their children as anything less than perfect. My daughters were all beautiful for example.

It is possible that your parents do not see a problem. Yes, it really is that simple. Another possibility is that they worry greatly about the risks of surgery. You must remember that the risks of surgery were greater when they were your age and that old information could still be influencing their thoughts.

Sometimes grandparents are a potential help for several good reasons. The Grandparents can be close enough to be caring and loving but at the same time they can be far enough away from the day in day out parenting cares to be more objective.

If you are having trouble dealing with a parent, sometimes a grandparent can intercede in your behalf.